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may eyes a little.

STEWART: I don't thnk
you were content at all. And
Pm sure you are not
mediocre. If you shed that
mediocrity bluff you've been
pulling on yourself and an
public, you'll

be aware of the first con-
tentment you've had for a
long time. There’s nothing
wrong with you that cams
the mediocrity tag, has
been a role you've becn
conditioned to play, (which
you've known was phoncy)

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Throw her out

trouble for you. Why not
throw her out of your life?
And while you are ai at —
you may as ‘well decide to
quit diving and quil your
job and disown your friends.

If you've decided to go on
with your drinking anyway,
you might as well clear the
decks for free action without
anyone breathing down your
neck and telling you when to
quit. Hf there's anything that
sloshed whenever you feel
fike it, 1 ts being shackied to
a girl who loves you and s
broken hearted over your
inoccat bit of fun.

My advice is to throw her
out so youll have onc tess
bamer agamsi your pro-
ceeding with your scif-des-
truction at your own choscn
rate of speed and without
her trying to slow your pacc.
Who does she think she 1s?

Of course she MAY be a
broken hearted lover who 1s
tow wise to mshk too much for
her daughter and herself

Who do you thakh YOU

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that has allowed you to see
yourself as mediocre. Tl
pretend [m sorry to have
bothered your contentment,
bat we both know that all
that’s happened to you is you
have chosen to come alive.
That's enough to make you
content! But it isn’t enough
to make you _ satisfied.
Anyway, I'm happy for you.
Enjoy your flying! By the

nudged you, somethimg else
would have done it. You
were ready to live im-
tentionally . Right?

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QUESTION: My mother is a
very strong woman and it is

eight years now on my own.
I married bere and have a
daughter. We are happy and
doing well. Now the blow! I
learmed yesterday that my
mother has sold oat and is
out here so she can
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else. She thinks I would be
ranning and suggested I
write and ask what you have
to say about it. She'll be here
in November.

STEWART: You would be
running, wouldn't you? How
far? How often? How long?
Your wife may be seeing that
you have not really been
“free” of your mother during
these eight years, but have
only been away from her,
geographically. The way to
turn your “problem” into an
Opportunity, has nothing to
do with your mother. It has
to do only with you. If you
choose to let it, her coming
here will be a God-send to
you. You will be in a much
better position to bring an
end to your running and a
new beginning to respect
your own responsibility.
Two things can happen. You
can end your “attachment”

to momma, and, at the same
time make your contribution
to the possibility of a good,
loving relationship with her.
(She may not know how to
respond, but to put it coldly,
that’s her “problem” —
which can also be turned
into her opportunity). I
know a woman who moved
thousands of miles from her
parents to escape their
“control”.

She thought running was
the answer. It wasn’t. They
still dominated her. Then
she thought she'd be free
when they died. She wasn’t.
They died six years ago and
they are still in charge of
her! At last she’s coming to
see that her freedom lies in
herself. Hear your wife.
Don't run. Get some
counselling help in ending
the “attachment” and
Starting a loving relation-
ship. You can opt for that,
right here.

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