MY HUSBAND bought two ski passes to Cypress Park ski area for our son and daughter, aged 12 and 14 respectively. fam employed as a manager of a restaurant and although my in- come is quite reasonable, my hus- band’s income is approximately three times that of mine. The maintenance that he pays me for the chiidren and myself is totally used along with most of my salary for everyday living ex- penses. The children now are angry at me because he has told them I should either be driving them to Cypress Park each time they wish to ski or paying for their trans- portation there, other than the transit system. [ simply do not have the ability to leave my employment to drive them to their skiing, nor can I af- ford what he (erms suitable trans- portation for them. What should I do? The first thing you should do is stop worrying abou! the situation. It appears te be a situation that he has set up purposely to cause con- flict, assuming that the purchase of the ski tickets was not discuss- ed and agreed upon between the two of you prior to your hus- band’s purchasing them. Gift set up to cause conflict Sunday, December 20, 1992 - North Shore News - 48 | VANCOUVER CITY LIBRARY | ‘SEASONS GREETINGS : HOLIDAY HOURS Ve Thursday, December 24th - closing at 2 p.m. reopening Tuesday, Dec. 29 at 9:30 a.m. Thursday, December 31st - closing at 4:30 p. H reopening Saturday, Jan. 2nd at 9:30 a.m. amendment to either your separa- - rH tion agreement or court order ami y whereby you receive increased = maintenance from him. Affairs Keep a copy of that letter. Counselling by a truly qualified Pa Pr al eam = counsellor for both of you would . be of great assistance to break down the obvious barriers of an- imosity that exist. After 20 years of marriage my husband has left our three children aged 17, 14 and nine, and myself, for a neighbor whose husband recently died. We have a tome with a mort- fb gage, two cars paid for and my husband's pension with the. Etec- KIRSTIE HUGH trical Union. My. husband earns approximate- MACLISE STARK ly $60,000 per year in his job, which has been sufficient to allow You should explain to the us a comfortable style of tiving children that it is an activity that ‘sut not one where we could af- their father should enjoy with ford holidays out of the country, them and that they should contact : “ him for transportation. See Children’s page &7 You might also write him a let- ter advising him that if he does wish you to arrange transporta- tion, you will be happy to do so provided that he reimburse you immediately for the costs. You mighi also advise him that if he persists in giving this type of gift which places the onus on you in the children’s minds to become involved, then you will need an S SAVINGS ‘MAZDAS COST LESS PERIOD! POSTER RESTAURANT Mediterranean : “13 years of successful business” We invite you down for y (up to 50) for Christmas & New Year's. OPEN CHRISTMAS EVE & BOXING DAY Including: Steaks, Poultry, Fresh Seafood, Homemade Pasia & Gourmet Pizza Fully Licensed — Fine Dining Overlooking The Waters Of Beautiful Howe Sound Business Luncheons Weddings, Parties & Special Occasions Welcome CALL FOR SUMMER & WINTER HOURS Scenic Drive to HORSESHOE BAY RESERVATIONS SUGGESTED 921-8184 | as 6330 BAY, WEST VANCOUVER, HORSESHOE BAY BAY MOORINGS SEAFOOD HOUSE our business staff parties SERVICE DEPT. OPEN 8 AM-9 PM MONDAY-SATURDAY iT JUST FEELS RIGHT The dozens of beautifully decorated trees you'll find throughout our malls are just our way of saying, “At Christmas, it’s the thought that counts”. You see, this year the merchants will be coming out into the mall to decorate our trees. And because you'll choose “The Best Dressed Tree” by voting with a loonie donation to the Canucks Children’s Foundation, the real winners are kids less fortunate than ourselves. After all, lending a helping hand is also what Christmas is all about. Cuisine LATE NIGHT SHOPPING HOURS: 10:00am - 9:00pm Monday - Friday 9:30am ~ 5:30pm Saturday Sundays 10:00am-5:00pm PARK ROYAL NEW LOOK! NEW STORES! Located at Taylor Way and Marine Drive, West Vancouver.