Page 12, December 20, 1978’: North Shore News His, new. office - ‘in. the Plaza : ‘ International Hotel. _ ‘Tuesdays © only) is. for the. . ae convenience of. North ‘Shore’ residents.” no of the way our two sons are dressing. Both of them insist. On wearing jeans that are too. long. and too faded and too: / frayed. P's ve always been neat ‘about my. dressing and my husband is fastidious about ~ his clolthes and appearance. ‘My kids shower almost every ‘day — sometimes more than that — they get themselves as clean as whistles then put on these awful clothes that maake them look like tramps. . | I'm quite fussed about what our friends. and neighbours will think about _ these two. waifs.: They'll ‘think we can’t’ afford - clothe them, or don't care. about them. I’ve. explained - it to the kids, but they say, “That's their problem. mom — why ‘are YOU so worked | up about what THEY think?” I know: they've got a ‘point, but it doesn't make me feel any better. Should I fust let them get away with ie? STEWART: Why not? That’ s my serious answer. ) Make a list of the reasons why you should not “let them’ - get away with it” and decide ~ whether any of them are, | really important reasons. " QUESTION: How dol go about consulting with | ‘| you? . Just STEWART: - phone 261-6242 for an appointment, [open - If you. have enough im- portant reasons why they a STEWART: a veady h have! I ‘mean I have ditched the Christmas that ‘you: ‘describe* - ‘tts =m ist ‘of collected ‘rip- — ..- Offs”. ora: while, I thought a s in the face of creating. ‘my sere fer me: Pa veeerding “Christmas, ‘which «- ' to'me, Seemed impossible: to. buck. That * “was. ‘the. way ‘ : Christmas - “was “ “going, . ~ ‘that’s the ‘way it was going: “Too bad”, [said to myself,” but the’ commercial world is. gargantuan and you are just one: Person, So, accept the facts Be | ‘should not ‘wear r the jeans 5 of their choice, then talk it over = with them. Note that I said) | IMPORTANT ‘reasons! If. quest0N, 1. never. can | remember liking me very — gt “< You® can: cc unt “me. in.-as.. aa being one person who knows: ° “that: “they” can’t do anything to my Christmas. I choose to create .my. own reality | consciously - “rather than living as- if “they”: - does: it'shrivel. up. because of ‘accumulated: . -, You've got to ‘do better than: that if-you want to take from .:. “me. something | that is a part of: my. splendour. In‘me.— : Tm ~ in. charge!” ‘Christmas! . yy rip-offs. © ‘Merry ‘much as ‘ashamed of what qj fact that I don’t. amount to much and have worked up 2 _ sort of image of a person that - I present to the world as me. [ike the image much better _ .', than [like myself. I feel like ‘Tam doing, myself. a favour by developing ‘this. image and, moreover, I am. doing. rc the “world a; good. turn by © 7 STEWART:. frontation between who "yo ~-actually. are,and. the: ‘image .of some: self. ‘you are: sharing with: us, is always a. painful resenting the image instead P -of ‘the. self. I feel: ‘ali right about doing this because I think I, and my: world, ‘are~ better off with ‘my. self-- created. image . than we would be with my real self. I. think I am doing this pretty. well, and: feel justified in. doing. fey but have. one. _. hang-up about &. The one _ thing that bothers me is. that Pm afraid ‘Pl disclose my os * real self to the world (the » pelt “you don’t: have. enough = | een IMPORTANT | REASONS. [ “for coming down: heavy: on’ ‘the: f- situation and don’t nag or them, then accept © complain or get sarcastic. To help you handle. this . tricky task, let me remind 1|-f you of how much YOU. | (back in the -40’s) wanted to . wear something or other than your folks thought was ‘awful or silly. How did you | handle it? Did you handle it - in a way that makes you feel -YOUR way.was superior tof =the way your ‘kids: are | handling it? SSS=. —— —J =e a . . $552 Fraser St. _ COME 148 West 14th =] . | SUT TATT il Hi) NUNES iy = ae i roe = Sie | fl Na TUTTE TUL aa : a < . tutera Swimming and Ditness Canter a : HOLIDAY ‘MEMBERSHIP ‘SPECIAL . Pa MONTH _ AVERAGE MEMBERSHIP ON COURSE BASIS Vancouver . only be without the IMAGE, ~ ~ WAS. Fhave faced up to the | in actual: the.” v ehanees de pretend i it. oo. you can 1 choose o eliminate. by being what ou really are. . The other: is to’ retreat even -more. -completely nto what ~ you have been: Pretending to “be, which, is dreamy fantasy. Le, Within. that. fantasy, . you will - but would have to fall back om the imadequate litdle self surely. preside Over the death of your. reality. I want to make. happening — two.. additional . comments: ‘first, -you really could. not have dreamed up ‘this © “image” . which. you admire so. ‘much;: ‘unless you” had itin you to ‘be thati image fact. , ‘ , a 4 eodgodyubyubyobyuie