Pe ee ee ee ee me ee 40 - Wednesday, March 13, 1991 - North Shore News LIFESTYLES Boyfriend fails own comparison test Q. MY BOYFRIEND and I seven months now. We’re serious about each other, but te have been together almost still hasn’t agreed to be monogamous. Until he does, I continue to use condoms. He says the condoms are hurting ow7 sex. I cannot have an orgasm during intercourse unless I am also being stimulated manually. He says no other women in his life has need- e:l this extra attention. We're both in our 20s, bui he has had more partners than I have. He blames my ‘‘problem” on the condoms, which he says must be cutting down on my sen- sitivity. I think he’s wrong. fs he? A. What nonsense he is giving you! Bravo to you for using the condoms until you are in a monogamous relationship. You must continue doing so. Most women do require direct clitora! stimulation to have an orgasm; and most women do not have an orgasm during intercourse without that additional stimuia- tion. Condoms have nothing to do with this. Tell him I said so! Also, I don’t like what he says about other women. It is never helpful to compare one lover with another one. Maybe fie is not the love of your life. Q. My 20-year-old son and I have a good relationship. We have open discussions, and his friends ase always welcome here. Several months ago he called and asked if he could bring his girlfriend home from college on break with him. When I enthusiastically agreed, he asked, ‘“What are the sleeping arrangements?’ I said, ‘You. in your recom; her in the guest room.” He decided they would sleep at a frieud’s and visit me during the days, which they did. The girt is history. My son and I still have a good relationship. But, for the future, I'd like to know how to handle the situation. Did I do the right thing or not? I'm divorced and have never had a ‘“‘friend’”’ sleep over when he was here. He soys I’m weird. A., Congratulations on having such a good relationship with your son. 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