Concerned abou

A shadow person won't help

ATELY, so many of my counselling clients
are concerned with ‘‘becoming
themselves’’. Concerned? Yes, because, as
they say, ‘““Sure I want to be my real self, but how
do I do it?”’

things we hear them saying:

POSTPONER: ‘‘Not yet.
You can do it later.”’

HOOKER: ‘‘Don’t give out
unless they make it wor-
thwhile for you.’”’

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listen to me.”’
MANIPULATOR: ‘‘You’d
better do it this way.”’
SCAREDY CAT: ‘‘I’d sure
like to, but geee!”’
BRAIN: ‘‘It’s simple. Now
pay attention.”’
TEETER-TOTTER:
‘“‘Everyone is up and
down. Why not you?’’
BLUFFER: ‘The boss says |
saved the company.’’

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One way to mull over, if
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MARTYR: ‘‘Poor you!
Volunteer to be a victim!”

PRUDE: ‘‘I’Hl tell them you
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CON ARTIST: ‘‘I want to be
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**Do you want ME to han-
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You have probably ap

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