C10 - Sunday, May 2, 1982 - North Shore News

QUESTION: Ive got to get
away from here. I've
screwed up everything here
and feel like I ought to make
a new start in another
location altogether. I have
gradually got myself “in the
middle” at work, between
two of my “superiors”; my
social life is almost zilch;
(because of stories about
me) I have very few friends
now; (because of the same
stories) I don’t like the suite
Pm living in; [ve got too
many relatives round about,
all of them wanting to give
me advice and run my life.
Even my girl-friend is a
problem to me hecause |
have a definite feeling she's
on the make for my best
friend. In other words,
almost everything seems to
be going the wrong way. I
wouldn't be surprised if I lost

OK, ‘so here are some of
the reasons why I say [ve got

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QUESTION: I feel quite silly
about raising the question
that is bothering me. It will
surely seem unimportant to
you, but it bothers me a jot.
The fact is I have terrible
hatred for Mondays! I like
week-ends a lot, but time
and again Ill have a dull
rotten feeling about
tomorrow being Monday.

1 don't think it has
anything to do with my job
because it's a good one and |
enjoy it. But on Monday
mornings I just want to stay
home or go into some sort of
hibernation from which Pll
wake up all ready for
Tuesday. I'd like to just
leave out Mondays. Why am
I bike that and do you know
anything I can do about it?

STEWART: There may be
some specific reason for
your feelings about) Mon
days. You may have trained
yourself not to face up to ut
and handle tt, of you may
have “forgotten” what it ts.
There 15 a possibility that
therapy would be helpful to
you in that the experience of
regression might open up to
you the beginning reasons
for your strong feelings
about Mondays

There ts) also) a) good
possibility that you could

ask hayden stewart

Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242
for appointments for individual, family or group counselling.

Time to stop running

to get away from here. But
there's another whole part to
my problem and that is that |
don’t want to feel like ['m
running away from dif-
ficulties. 1 desperately want
to get out of here, but I know
I would always feel like I
have given up on myself.
What do you think about my
getting away and starting a
new life? I forgot to tell you
that I am 27.

STEWART: “Getting away
and starting a new life” has a
nice ring to it, but I think it
doesn’t work that way. We
don’t really start new lives,
but rather we give way to the
emerging of new dimensions
of life. You don’t leave the
old life and start again. What
you do is start with waht
you've got so far and enter
into an intentional time of
transformation. Being in a
new location might help you
in your emerging, but not, if,

reverse your. attitudes
without the therapy. The
first thing, I suppose, would
be for you to be willing to
accept the fact that every
few days for the rest of your
life, there is going to be
Monday. You will not be
able to skip Mondays and
wake up all ready for
Tuesdays. That sort of thing
will not work. You will be
living on Mondays for the
rest of your life. One seventh
of all your remaining time on
earth will be spent on
Mondays

In co-operation with that
bit of your reality, give
Monday a chance to make
its special contnbutions to
your hfe Plan out ways to let
Mondays serve you well

A sneaky plug

QUESTION:

How come you counsel on
Tuesdays only on the North
Shore? ['m ted up on
Tuesdays. North Shore
residents are bheing
discriminated against. Aren't
you ashamed?

ys be Monday

as you say, you are only
running away. Someone
said, “You can never really
get away — you can only
take yourself someplace
else.” Remember, you would
be taking the SAME person
someplace else.

Perhaps you should do
both. Why not get yourself
into the way of finding your
new life right here where you
live, and then, if you still
want to do so, you could go
away without feeling you
were running.

Right here where you live,
or in the new location you
have in mind, you will have
your total self to start with.
That is as much as any of us
have. You have what it
takes, here, or there. But
you probably will not find
more of yourself just
because you are in a dif-
ferent place. Get ready to
GO someplace, not just to
LEAVE here.

Inaugurate a plan that will
reverse the Monday syn-
drome that you don't like.
Allow Monday to become
the day on which you do
things you like. Hike, have a
party, meditate, help
somebody, splurge in the
kitchen, or get together with
special friends. Start USING
Mondays joyfully instead of
hating them.

I'm saying that you are
RESPONSIBLE FOR

MONDAYS. Make them,

different. By your own
decision, turn things around.
You don’t like Mondays the
way they are? Then change
them to suit you. Don't give
into them as though they
control your hfe You're in
charge of Mondays Make
them good!

STEWART:

While my Tuesday office
in the Internatonal Plaza
may be handier for most
North Shore residents,
obviously. itis not for you
But that docs not exclude
you “Phone 2616242 for an
appointment

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