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page 4 - April 21, 1976 - North Shore News

QUESTION: | Our danghter —
has always been a problem
and now she’s got herself
into a terrible mess. When
she was only 20 she struck -
out on her own against our
wishes. She is° mow. 25, |
aamarried and pregnant, :

1 told her when she
insisted on leaving home that.
she was just a child and
would be like a lamb being

led to slaughter. Obviously,
she did not listen to me.

’ When she told us she was
pregnant, I got the feeling
that she was actually happy
about it! When we asked to
know who the father was, she

‘sald at first that she wasn’t

‘sure. But then she changed

her tune and said she knew.
put that she didn’t want him

to know because, she sald,.

their friendship | hasn’t wor-.

Tam disgusted over this
whole mess. She wants to
keep ‘the baby as a single
parent. Have you ever heard

so stupid? I have no

question to ask; I’m just

blowing off steam. That boy’

sheuld be made to ‘Pay 4
through the nose.

STEWART: Considering

that your daughter has been
well taught.that she is just a
child and like a lamb for

that her prime teacher in this

school of life (her. mother)
probably never had ques-

qualities. ~

- assume the
supervisor of the slaughter - |
slaughter, and considering .

‘tions to ask but only steam to

blow off, the young.woman
surprisingly shows some fine |

I think ‘it is admirable’ of

'. her not to saddle the young

man with a-load of respons-
ibilities which she feels are
her own. That disgusts you?
Do you really want her to
“name’ * the man and make
him “pay
nose’’? .

xX

Obviously you have no
intention of being.a lamb,
but I am hoping ‘you will not
position of

house. Get your steam-blow-
‘ing performance behind you
and search for some under-

standing love:.

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STEWART: “ Pretended in
ness can quickly -become

appointments.  Letters- are
alWays welcome. Mail them. to
HAYDEN STEWART, c/o ‘the

North Shore. News, #202-1139 ”

Lonsdale, North Nan. |

_ Legal beagle neede

‘QUESTION: ‘My. husband

‘and I jointly own a house. It: °
has almost doubled in‘value .
during ‘the eight: years we

~ Get yourselve a lawyer. it
have owned It.’ . “Ho was very angry when I _ has“ nothing |. to “do ‘with lovely dresses. ( the short.‘
hesitated and then refused to. . trusting’ your. husband, .You | |
The other day, witheut any: algie until Thad time to think |

QUESTION: . My 15-yearold_
cam. convinee .
- everyone she is sick when
_ever it is to her advantage to.
do so. This goes for her -
:teachers, counsellors: and.
‘school principal as’ ‘welll | “as .
her parents. * ae

daughter

wants to get out of a class or

ll. out. of swimming or ‘sonie- .

thing, we don’t know what to -
do because all the symptoms...
are there and she. may really |

be sick! How can we handle
hor pretended iness?.

real. Your daughter (and

‘*make’’ ourselves: sick if the:

me to sign something then

and there. He had not seen a

lawyer.’ . '

When we feel certain: she
is not sick at-all, but simply

most of the rest of us too) can >

advantages are sufficient for
our. needs. - -
How often, Mom, have: you.

developed a real headache
when it served your purpose? - ©

-T£ you can-do. it; so-can = §

daughter, right? wos

“On any given occasion ‘of
her illness (assumed by you.
to be pretended) She may .
honestly come’ to’ feel she
really is ill: So treat her as an

“ill person, but’ making sure‘

that her rewards for being ill .
are minimal. Whatever ad-.

vantages. accrue ‘to.her by >
making, herself ill: ‘should be.
offset. by allowing’ the | app-

‘ropriate disadvantages | to_

have their effect too. Other- ©
‘wise her rewards. for being ill .

will“ establish.; a. ‘iptong ,
pattern. — :

asking for ‘time, Beyond that

should insist on legal ‘advice

1 had better not ventire.. . o .

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