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: know that ‘my husband does - |

-| -jast cannot bring
mmyvelf to feeling. OK about) |
it. 1 find myself. stalling for
_ time and. why, I. don’t:-kmow.

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everyone, divorce is : a. ‘pretty .

rough. experience, : even. if.
there is. mo: big | hassle, but
somehow I. don’t think that’

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without love or sense. Now,. . enough... Something ‘is: stir-~
‘ten years later, as I approach —
my 27th birthday, Tam still -
but I. am .
beginning to. develop: some

' without. love, .

sense. I was not kidnapped:
and forced into marriageand —
yet, the pressure on me to.
get married brought | about. :
the same results. Now Ihave —
_a six year old. daughter, a
‘husband who thinks of me as. -
one of his possessions. and. an.

empty. ‘nothing Where : omy

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nobody. Tama nobody: who is:
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husband, ber child and: her

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. have simply accepted my. tot:
and “fit in’? as well as I can.
‘But now I am becoming
restive and resentful and,

: perhaps, at the edge of being.

rebellious. The though | of.

rebelling | frightens . ‘me. he-:

cause it is against everything |

I have been taught. and.
trained in. I have learned all"
about.

_ marriage, and then, through-
out the marriage,
been one. long = refresher.

‘course. “The.

breaking out of my impasse.

intrigues and terrifies me. I

yearn to become something |
more than a ‘‘treasure’’ and -
that. is all I am to. my.
husband, just like his two)
very special cars, his. very
special boat, his five rare old
books and his membership in |

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Ying in me that makes me.

want ‘enough’ °° How: do i
get lt it? How do I start?

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You already have, simply. by
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and seeing it as.a: ‘hunger to -

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