24 - Wednesday. November 14 . parents OLD-FASHIONED savings such as Uchildien should be scen and not beard’ and ‘spare the rod. spoil the child are slipping inte obscurity. Raising children using corporal punishmeat and severe scolding ts viewed its passe. A mother today is mote likels io say something Tike, “hRxcuse mig. dear, buc mommy is talking on the telephone right now, Can we talk later? Thank you.’ Courses that teach people how to be better parents hase become extremely popular, in part because old methods have not proven to be very effective. Children miss learn to obeys orders when threit- ened by an adult's wrath, bur their self-worth, personal devel- opment, school performance and relations with others de not seem to benefit much from a vell amd a ales Parents tend ta raise then children in agwordanece with whatever social salues ate current, A deeper awareness oof child behavioral psychology coupled with oinore demecratic tamily strnctires are influencing a tess authoritarian approach too paren: Ung. Even the word parenting tsa new one in our vocabulers David and Anne Stobart. the porents of 3) s-yeur-old twin boys, were Having trouble handling the rebelfiousness of thet sous. Phe stubbornness of tots may he a nonmal Realdhy sign of growing up, bur it can sometimes make for @ stressed eur mem and dad. especially two that are working full time. Stobart says he and tis wife de nor believe an spanking children and scolding didn't seem to be working well, so they signed up for the Posituse Parenting course offered bs North Shore Family Services. “Ast turned out we found cht we weren't bad parents at all’ says David, “‘but we fearned some new techniques that ure mere helpful than just) raising our voices." The Positive Parenting course taught the Stobarts to use simple, subtle methods fo encourage co- operation in their boys while at the same time avoiding confronta- tions. North Shore Family Services (NSFS) is a member agency of United Way of the Lower Mainland. The agency helped 14,000 Nosth Shore clients last year alone. United Way funding is important to NSES because it helps them make services available to people who cannot afford to pay for them. “ELECT A FULL-TIME B ALDERMAN GETA OE f GUSINESSMAN'S EXPERIENCE! rd aa WEST VANCOUVER COUNCIL NEEDS FULL-TIME ALDERMEN NOW! a On Sat., November 77th § VOTE William James (Bill) Howard | Retired Businessman 1930 - Nerth Shore News —_ ——— Photo submitted HAZEL ROGERS, president of the Auxiliary to Lions Gate Hospital, presents Jennifer Holmes (centre) and Chista { Shahrokh with $300 each as dual winners of the 1990 Candy | Striper Award. Candy striper THE AONE ANKS oto i Gitte Hospital resentis chase tae winners tf seetr o tor the Pv Cands Str an The owes eatstatsdites teers are Tenmiter Hbodlriws. at sods currently Fostudent oat) Capilano Cad iearuiting Boss and gris between fess and Chista Shahrokh. a the - oof df and IN for the first sear student ar Vancouver i. stuiper program. fraining Community Calle will January and beb- Phe PGbE Austhars presents fuary Pvvd. bor further informa- foannually. Ahbeugh non, phone Ys. 734, ve 10 LB Does the menufacturer’s suggested retail price of all in-stock walicoverings and borders. premium quality Breeze Eggshell Latex. Reg. 537.48 Sale price $24.99. Paint specials are also available at Participating Dealers. * Regular is now 3.78 litres, though some 4 litre cons may remain in stock. North Vancouver 133 West 16th St. 988-0141 (one block wesi of Lonsdale) the manufacturer's suggested retail price of all book order wallcoverings (fabrics not included). QA) the price of every regetar can* of meme nfemium quolity General Point Alkyd ond Breeze Laiex interior finishes. eTERIOR ALKYD: SEML-GLOSS ENAMEL winte 22.010 These savings are on now to November 25th. ‘your General Paint store at the sign of the rainbow ENERAPAINT West Vancouver Park Royal South Mall 922-7389