C10 - Sunday News, February 7, 1982 QUESTION: I've never seen 2 question like this in your column and perhaps you won't print it bat here goes anyway. 'm 16 and there are these three guys 17, 17 and 18. Well, I used to date two of them and still do once in a while and there's the third one that ['m going with right now. These three guys are coins to drive all over B.C. spring and summer and perhaps some of Alberta too in a van they have. Well, they want me to go along with them. Now you've got to use your imagination because I can't very well tell you what they said can I. Well, you know, Id sure love to do it, but I don't know. I've never really lived with a boy at all up to now - except for two or three weekends - so to do it with three guys is pretty far out for me. My parents would kill me, but I've got to admit they are awfully straight without any swerves. So I can’t talk it over with them. I've talked with one girlfriend who b older (she ts 21) and she says that kind of thing is being accepted now a lot more than it used to be. I chought I'd ask you what you think about whether it is acceptable. I asked my brother what he thinks and just like a brother he sort of leered at me and said, “It's your menu - choose your dish”. Now what the heck help is that? You probably know what way the wind ts blowing these days. Would it be more acceptable for me to go off with three guys than it used to be? Would there be fewer frowns than there used to be? STEWART: Without a doubt, there would be fewer frowns than there used to be. Without a decision? Surely in this new world of beautifully ex- panded freedom, you are not stall living back in that old world where you decide something by how many people will frown. Fewer people are frowning these days about violence, about cheating, about about drunkeness, going on QUESTION: Every little while { hear of some enrichment group or some lecture or church service that attracts my attention, but you would not believe how often I hear the news just AFTER the even has been concluded! If other people have the same ex- perience, perhaps it would be a good thing for the NEWS to list some of these events for us, well ahead of registration time. | know at least one of your readers would appreciate it. STEWART: Good What we've done on oc- casion is list the vamous agencies which offer groups idea! and have included their ‘phone numbers Then. of course, you should take advantage of our WHATS doubt 1t would be “more GOING ON feature acceptable” than it used to } have before me the be SPRING PROGRAM of the Now MY question What North Shore Lising and in the world does that an Learning Centre Its a good swer of mine have to do with outhit and Pm happy to list your arriving at your some oof thei upeoming offerings Assertive Skills for Men and Women Coping Blow our with Sout Lecnages y Building Self bstecim Help your Ctabdren ated Yet selyex Sutsvase Pwr Ite own orn Prodipal Path tres Kelaxativon anid Praved QUESTION: Propressive Relaxation I play the flute (classical) Basie C oneniani ation Skulls and my boyfriend plays the Neorth Store Lasaia vied guitar (rock). 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Been cowres FOO EAN BAC HEI Ae cam BO teas aoout NOP EUPIA bCaPOT Naa © tree eve HASTINGS ST vt al tees BUANAHY He ans Pre 290 0606 promiscuity, about narrow- minded bigotry and on and on. Just because fewer people are frowning about these things, does that mean you should wade in with everyone who 1s not frowning? There’s GOT to be a better way. And that better way is mght there for you, Three guys and a girl within your own self. You simply MUST make your own choice in unison with the Self you are becoming. Like you, I don’t know what your brother meant, but I hope his words keep coming back to you while you are deciding. ‘It's YOUR menu. Choose your dish!”. ask hayden stewart Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242 for appointments for individual, family or group counselling. DESIGN Storm ALUMINUM LTD, “indows "2 987-8472 Enclosures §'" ; Free In-Home Estimates POLYMAR Kitchens & Bathrooms NOT ‘TO! 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