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DON’T STAND up to a school yard bully.
. By Anna Marie D'Angelo
News Reporter

That’s what he or she wants.

“Hf a child hits back, it’s like throwing fuel on a fire,”
said Nancy Ford,'a counsellor who has taught Grade 7 stu-
dents in North Vancouver how to survive a bully.

“The appropriate thing to do is leave," she said.

Ford presented Bullies In our Schools on Wednesday iit
Seycove Community Centre.

The presentation was part of more than 25 events held
this month associated with Together Against Violence, an
annual North Shore community education initiative. -

A youngster at Wednesday’s bullies talk, one of seven
people i in the ‘audience, told Ford that you simply can’t
_ eave a bully as the bully will “just follow you around.”

Said Ford; ‘You need to ask for help.”

Ford said adults encounter bullies all the time in work-
”, place situations, in their families and elsewheie,

.“We ‘shouid. not’ do ‘problem solving for our’ kids

because then they. don't know what to do when they are
} offered a choice of acting responsibly or not Fesponsibly.”
“said Ford,
~ She-said children have to develop their own ‘coping
| strategies. Parents should give. help, only when asked.
How to survive a buily? a
‘protect yourself and leave;
» NB feel your feclings in‘a safe’ place;
share your: feelings v with a safe person;,
8 ask for rea ,

| SINGLE-FAMILY dwellings and

F _ buildings less, than three stories high ©:

‘are exempt from. North Vancouver ©.
City’s new building sprinkler bylaw.

“Block Parents tell you to tell the teacher, When you
go to the teacher, they say go to your seat.” said a young-
Ster.

Ford acknowledged that sometimes bullying will get to
the “intolerable” level before a child or teen will ask for
help. ; ;

Ford said she didn’t perceive the bully problem to be at
a chronically high level in North Vancouver. She advised
Parents to go as far as “camping out” in a classroom if
their child's request for help is ignored.

Ford said there is no adult who can say they have never
acted like a bully.

She said most parents foster self-esteem in the children
to enable them to handle bully situations better.

. Ford said if a child understands that an angry bully is a
sad and lonely person inside, that will. help the child
respond rather than react to a bully.

“It’s not to excuse the bully’s behavior. It is to under-

_ Stand where the bully is coming from,” said Ford.

Ford ‘said children should not hit back or bully back

‘when confronted in a bully situation.
She ‘said a buliy operates at an angry level because ,

anger allows him or her to act, to move into control and to
have a feeling of safety. *

.- That safety feeling, Ford said, is likely not pres sent at a .
needed Jeve} in the bully’s home.

“The bully’ victiniizes in some way because that is the
only wity he knows how to handle situations. with ageres-
sion.” she said. .

‘The ideat bully target. is'a ‘a youngster who “ collapses”

and becomes a victim or retaliates.
“+ She said. parents of a bullied child cannot expect “that
confronting a bully’s parents will improve ‘the situation.
“Oftentimes in situations, there is ne one taking

- esponsibility nor will they take responsibility.’ said Ford.
Said. Ford, “We can’t make the bully change... What .

jwe can do is s get out of range of the bully.”

a NORTH VANCOUVER
CITY GOUNCIL ©
By Bob Mackin

COUNSELLOR NANCY Ford points. to.a
-which the angry exterior: and lonely, Sad |
“yard menace are @ depicted.

wing ofa bully ‘f
erlor of, the school

tabled a “research study, at
~ public hearing that claimed the costs would
: be onerous for : builders and. cons

the bylaws is‘“the conversion of privately owned -

lands to essentially a park use without compensa:
tion or any allocation’ of funds in the district bud-

fore: pu

Pi
"government the. feds’ action should reflect ‘the

ithout :compensation. Expropriabun, ‘sai
Cuthbert, includes removing ; land from the owne:

aint CMHC. land is in m Cones Forest and Mountain °

Forest are roughly comparable in size and thére-
fore ‘value: ($146 million). nile CME District

aly fequited in 1970 at tthe district's
Fequest | to provide -housing, Cuthbert. said it’s.

short-sighted to justify development i in Mountain
Forest because ‘of a decision in 1970.,

Cuthbert said staff told councillots the CMHC
is-a history. of. abiding by rmounicipal decisions

‘oni land use.! ‘A court

The. bylaw. was approved at Monday’ s..
council meeting. It applies to new construc-
ion and some additions and alterations to"

existing structures.

~The bylaw is expected to, be formally

3 adopted on Nov. 27. :

i, Buildings in Norah Vancoiver City clas~*.
ified under’ the: following. B.C. Building |
Code. categories will be required to instail .
‘ly Opnize. ‘that the hazards are there,” he'said.

‘fire ‘sprinklers:
BW assembly occupancies;
@ institutional occupancie:

iz residential occupancies that exceed four.

ice occiipancies : that. exc
(6,200 ft.) ‘or'three storeys;
QB industrial occupancies. ..

J.J. Guenther; a Noith Vancouver City. :
levelopment/ services. manager, said the ”

three-storey,” .600-sq.-m _(6,500-sq.-ft.)

“ threshold : is. taken qm the National -

He ‘said “staff. believe there: is minimat ;!

risk of fire-related deaths in unsprinklered i."
7 buildings that are three storeys or less...’

“We've taken a look at the types of haz
ards that exist in the city and we thought 6

-where we can approach this with a realistic”

bylaw. that’ $ not going to face: the dévelop-
ers with too much of a burden and also'rec-~::

“Coun. Barbara’ Perrauit, “fike: her, col’:
leagues, : voted for the bylaw. But: she’

“lamented: the’ omission of single- vfamaily...

dwellings. a .
“Staff) really: watered down: the Sprinks |

: _Reririg. regulations ‘that: we .were discussing
eariie ‘If Thad‘ my. druthers it ‘Would've %
 been'included,” she said.

eo Guenther said © staff consi lered ‘the

Canadian Home: Builders Association’s |

_(CHBA) opposition to legislation. requiring :

sprinklers - be installed | in single- family

, ' more reali tic alternative.
“They” ve raised thes

f dwellings” are: ‘usually existing ' ones, :
they” Te not with new, ‘construction: .

The Canadian Home Builders, came

" National ‘Building Code. : 7
Ironically, a planned. addition’ to North

_ Vancouver City Hall woutd likely not'meet
, the size requirements fora mandatory

sprinkler system under the bylaw. :
- But North Vancouver City. fire pre en,
tion chief Dave’ Burgess’ recommended.

| Building’ Code’ s delineation of, small and: _ dwellings.

: 3 = Capilano slide area inve estigated
argues | ‘that noir neces sé counc! did not act on’
the ‘request ‘does not mean the p posal \ was ‘not

From page 1 . . a

ue water moving through Seymour reservoir towards the water intake, °
“the water. district decided to take advaniage o of the better water at

‘Capilano, she said. :

_ «Water district offi cials hope ihe turbid water in. Seymour will be

” flushed while the Capilano is in use. - >’:

Welman said that the: Seymour’s turbid | “water is partly due to

“recent rains and the landslide, However, behind the mass of turbid
water in Seymour, the water is clear. :

With the Capilanc source traditionally prone to becoming turbid

* quicker, Welman said the, water district is not sure’ =’ how, long the

Capilano source will stay in service.

“It’s a guessing’ game but what we ‘are looking ati isa ouple of.
days,” ; e
ue “Meanwhile, Thurber, Engineering has started investigating how..

she said.

installation. of a system should the Project q

“The CHBA made.a presentation and “80 ahead.

the Capilano slide area will be teha-
" bilitated, Welmati said:
‘The October, landstid:

ny, Welman said; has been asked to Propose several options with dif-
fering costs forthe work. |”. | ;
’ Rehabilitation work is scheduled to begin next year, said Welman.’
* Staff anticipate heavy machinery will be required. to stabilize the.
slide. GVRD options to bring the equipment in include access from
the reservoir foreshore or building ’a road through adjacent for
|. Friends of The Watershed spokesman Ross Muirhead supports the
use of a cable-controtled barge to’ bring i in’ matecial for retaining

‘walls from the east:side of the reservoir. He ‘and other, watershed

activists believe drainage’ disruption caused by. culverts built. for'a

a logging road above the slide site coftribuled to the slope failure.

Muirhead predicts that there will’ be future.slides at’ Hurricane
Creek, near the creck where the ‘most recent slide is located he

same logging road crosses both creeks,