QUESTION: I am really
-. surprised at your answer to

the man who wrote in about ._
children dropping smoke —~
bombs on top of cars. You ©.
‘actually patted the’ little -
darlings on the head because ~

you pulled off the same sort

of stunt 60 years ago. Bully ©

for you! Both of these acts
could have caused serious
accidents and deserved
reprimand (plus payment for
any damage caused).

Are you really out there
counselling .our children?
Get, up from your
typewriter, take off your
rose-coloured ‘glasses and
take a long hard look out
there. None of us were
angels, but there is a limit to
what is accepted as “just
fan”. Today the so-called fun
‘ends up dangerous,
destructive, illegal, and it's

getting worse. If this is the
sort of advice you are
handing ont, please don't
help. Raising children is
difficult as it is, without your
kind of advice.

STEWART: I'm afraid your
hackles rose so rapidly that
you did not give yourself a
chance to read my response
with understanding. I think |
did not give any “advice” at

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all. I pointed out that kids 60
years ago (not just kids
today) were “strange
animals” but a very large
percentage of them evolve
into persons of admirable
worth. I was simply sharing
my feeling (but, apparently

without sufficient clarity)
that foolhardy and
destructive and illegal

“pranks” on the part of kids
are (and were 60 years ago)
blatant signs of immaturity
which most kids ~ leave

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behind, rather healthily,
once they begin to see that
those performances are

really childish and old-hat_

and no longer “in”. Such
evolvement, in which I have
a lot of trust, is not sped
along by. parents and other
“authorities” who seem to

feel the-only thing to do with’

such kids is to treat them
with worse tricks than they
are pulling off. If you insist
on calling that “advice”,
then so be it.

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Likes to. provoke but not seduce

QUESTION: I'm so tired of
people (nearly always
women!) telling me I am
seductive. One woman told
me straight that I was trying
to seduce her silly little-bdy
husband. I felt like telling
her that if | tried to seduce
her husband she - wouldn't
have one very long. These
frightened, frumpy out-of-
-shape women who are so
scared of me seducing their

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and make something of
themselves. You can’t be
dowdy and dressed in poor
taste and thinking on one
cylinder without being
scared of every healthy,
smart woman who comes
into view of your husband. I
am very happy about being
provocative, but ['m not
interested in seducing. I
don't need to be. There's a
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seductive. Being provocative
makes being seductive
redundant.

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Thanks for. “’splaining it” so
clearly. But. have I got it
right? You are proud of your
provocativeness that makes
assorted women think you
are seductive — even though
nothing could be farther

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QUESTION: On the first of
September I went away for a
litle vacation all on my own!

. It was the. first time in our

nine years of marriage that
we have done that sort. of
thing. ‘We ‘Were both happy

_ about’ it'and@ except for one _

thing, both of us are still
thinking it was a great idea. I
spent most of my time with
two different lots of relatives
and in each place I had a
great time with them and
also with scads of old friends
that I had‘not seen since we
were married. I was very,
very happy on the trip and
my husband got along fine
too. Fve shown him pictures
told him
everything that happened
throughout the vacation.
Although I had such an
enjoyable time, I was quite

‘happy to come home and to

be met by my husband at the
airport. Now here's the part
that seems to be bothering
me and I'm wondering if you
would be willing to make a
comment that might help
me. ; eee

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saw each other at the air-

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missed you too,” because. I.

had not missed hinj-for one

minute!!! I had been away
from the man I really love
and I had not missed him at
all. What do you think -all .
that means? How could_I not
miss him if I love him? ©

STEWART: What do I think
all that means? Well, I think .
it means you had a very
enjoyable and busy and fun-
filled time with your two sets
of relatives and all your old .
friends and that you were
not worried about your
husband and that you have a

fine relationship with
relatives, friends and
husband and that you are a
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