4§ - Sunday, Misy 21, 1939 - North Shore News

GIRLFRIEND LEFT INA. BIND |
Returning man's girdle a delicate situation

DEAR MISS MANNERS — I am a businesswoman in my
early 40s, divorced, with no children.

In my travels, I met 2 man in bis
early sixties who is handsome,
charming and very successful. I
think something might develop be-
tween a3.

- Recently he visited me, staying
in a guest room. After ke left, I
discovered thai be had forgotten
something — his girdle.

1 don’t know what to do. Ordi-
narily, (2 my visitor had been a
woman, I would return it without
hesitation. If my mate friend had
left, ssy, his shorts, I would also
not hesitate.

If I do nothing, he may assume
thet I found tke item in question,
regard it 2s something shameful,
and thus not feel he can acknowl-
edge it. I would like to return it
end somehow let him knew that I
don’t mind at all if he wears a gir-
dle. Any suggestions?

GENTLE READER — Every

once in a while, Miss Manners has
an opportunity to throw in a
bonus. You did not ask her to help
you encourage this gentleman. in
addition to solving the delicate eti-
quette problem with his girdle, but
she has a solution that will do
both.
Invite him again (signifying that
you found nothing urpleasant
about your discovery) and then
leave the girdie in the guest room
(allowing him to retrieve it without
discussing it).

DEAR MISS MANNERS
Gur dining-room table has three
chairs at each side, plus an arm-
chair at each cond. What is the cor-
rect seating arrangement when
there are four or six people at the
table? Doez one remove the unused
chairs to the wall, or leave them in
place?

GENTLE READER — Once
upon a time, four was considered
the minimum number of places to

set at a table, even when fewer
people were dining. ‘This has little
to do with your question. Miss
Manners is mentioning it because
she is the last person still on earth
who remembers, and she has got-
ten tired of waiting for a suitable
question in response to which she
can use this choice piece of infor-

miss
manners
Judith Martin

mation. She keeps the practice
alive herself, only to the extent of
having a minimum of four chairs
at the table, but does not actually
set phantom covers, for fear of
guests’ murmuring, ‘‘Well, she’s
finally crossed the line.”’

Now — you were asking about
genuinely extra chairs, above the
magic number. Yes, they go
against the wall. At a very long
table, it would be awkward to have
only one person at each side with
the hosts far away at the ends.
Four people can be grouped with
the host (or hostess) at one end,

and one guest to one side and two
(or one and then the host) to the
other. Or you can have two people
on the middle of each side, facing
one another. Six can tsuaily
spread out enough to use the table
conventionally, but it is also per-
missible not to use the ends, or to
use only one of them.

DEAR MISS MANNERS — My
husband and I spent ovr own
money to treat ourselves and
others to a grand celebration of
our decision to marry. We spent
six months of our life, and thou-
sands of doliars, planning a big
wedding.

Many families we
responded for the entire family, or
for the husband and wife. Unfor-
tunately we discovered that many
husbands and children ‘‘do not
like to go to weddings.’’ Out of the

150 guests exnected at the wed-

ding, only 40 showed up.

Miss Manners, { do sot care
about the money we wasted. What
burt was the emotional devastation
we felt when we stood to walk
down the aisle of a church filled
with loved ones, and discovered
that the church was empty, save
for two rows.

it was the same feeling when we
entered a large recepticn hall with
place settings for 150 people, and
found only 30 people.

This was supposed to be one of

the best days of our life, and it was

horrible. I wanted to write this let-
ter to let people know what hap-
pens when they decide not to go to
a wedding, or think that sending
one representative of the family is
sufficient to satisfy any social
obligations they may feel.
GENTLE READER Miss
Manners knew this was where we
would end up once people started
regarding social invitations as ne-
gotiable, transferable and non-
binding.
Going to

the pseudo-parties

Cadet corps opportunities exist

' From page 45
invited to attend the Armoury be-
tween 7:30 and 9:30 each Tuesday
or Thursday evening.

-A number of positions in the
unit’s Army Cadet Corps are
available for teenagers, both male
and female, between 13 and 18
years. Adventure, shooting, first
aid and citizenship training is held
on a weekly basis, at no cost.

All equipment, uniform, travel-
ling, rations and accommodation
are also provided at no cost and,
during the summer months, cadets
are paid an allowance to attend
summer training camps, of two to
eight weeks duration, in various
locations throughout the west.

Those interested should tele-
phone 666-4052 between 7 p.m.
and 9 p.m. Monday or Tuesday
evenings only. Number 2573
Corps’ commanding officer Capt.
Brian Seward also invites prospec-
tive cadets and their parents to
visit the facilities, to learn at first
hand details of the valuable train-
ing which is available.

The unit’s annual inspection
(open jAcuse) will be held on
Thursday, May 25 commencing at
7:30 p.m. This annual parade
follows the format of an indoor
formul military parade and will in-
clude presentation of annual
awards, a march past and
demonstrations of equipment and
training.

The reviewing officer, Colonel
Sam Dunbar (Commander of CFB
Chilliwack), will be, accompanied
by a number of othtr military and
civil dignitaries. All members of
the public are invited to attend and

should be seated no later than 7:45-

p.m.
Music wiil be provided by the
North Vancouver Ycuth Band

under the direction of David
Henderson. There will be a buffet
arrangement immediately after the
demonstrations.

Mr. Jim Clark will be holding
“A SEMINAR’

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handicapped people to live an independent life.

Come meet Jim at:

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ALSO
NORTH SHORE NEIGHBOURHOOD HOUSE
MONDAY JUNE 12/89 at 1-2 p.m.
225 2nd STREET, NORTH VAN

Mr. Norm Rolston
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Mr. Ken Harverson
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Mr. Jim Sanborne
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JIM’S CORNER

For Seniors and Handicapped

502-1495 Esquimalt Ave.,

Wrest Vancouver, B.C.

926-9785

invited }

LIFESTYLES

given by businesses, and patroniz-
ing testaurants, has given people
the incredibly rude idea that
among their friends, as well, they
may send representatives, drop by
or not as their moods dictate, br-
ing extra people, demand special
foods, and so on.

Wedding invitations are par-
ticularly sacred, but all social in-

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CONSULTATION

vitations must be treated with
respect or there will be no order,
pleasure or point in extending
hospitality. Miss Manners hopes
people will learn from your experi-
ence, and is sorry you had to be
the victim of such callousness. But
please don’t remember this as just
a horrible day. You had each
other, didn’t you?

CHARLES G. STEIN

986-8600

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