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36 - Wednesday, February 6, 1985 - North Shore News

WHAT TO DO? |
When ‘kissing disease’ spoils wedding

very short notice, to postpone our long-

D EAR MISS MANNERS — | was forced, on

planned wedding when the groom came
down with infectious mononucleosis just three days

before the wedding.

Upon notice by the doctor
that he was effectively
quarantined for the next two
weeks, my family and his im-
mediately called al! of the
guests who were expected,
and dropped notes to those
we were not absolutely cer-
tain we could reach by
phone. Fortunately, on our

wedding day, nv one arrived”

at the church.

Now that the groom. is
recovering, we have
rescheduled the wedding for
next month. What is the wor-
ding for a second invitation?

Is it. appropriate to send a
.second formal invitation and
vesponse card? Or would it be
more appropriate to simply
call those who. were expected

to attend the first ceremony:

and invite. them?. Should, we
bother. sending invitations to
these” simply. “‘protocol’’
guests” invited to the: first
wedding, who were never ex-
“pected nor.intended to come?

‘What: about -asking ‘addi-
tional : “guests, to” the: second

- ceremony, ‘who were. not .in-
- vited’.to: the first because of
| $pace’ limitations or

oversight?

GENTLE READER — No,
you. may not take advantage

Of this accident to revise your
guest list. And no, there is no-
. formal invitation that’ in-

cludes the wording, ‘‘Due to
‘the recovery. of the
bridegroom...

‘You must ‘therefore write
brief letters to all the guests
on the original fist’ (or send
them second ‘copies. of the

_ ‘first invitation with the new |
: “date.” inked | in), including « -
“those. who declined original-
co lyy and that: “eategory which |
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miss
manners

by Judith
Martin

tion is that those are the very
people who always do come.)

You may be sure that the
postponement will be a major
topic of discussion at your
wedding reception, and you
cannot therefore have guests
who will learn from the con-

versation that they were |

afterthoughts.

- DEAR MISS MANNERS —

I am a retired senior citizen,
male, and 1 often. play
duplicate bridge. at the

daytime and nighttime.

games.

Although duplicate bridge
is not supposed to be a social
activity, but rather a battle of
wits and knowledge, I often
encounter opponents who
ask. me my age, residential

‘address, and conditions and

past tragedies in my-life.
: How can I, in a courteous

- way, tell them that these mat-
‘ters are’ none of their
: ‘business?

GENTLE READER — In
these uays, when any occa-
sion that groups people
together, including waiting
for a traffic light to change,
is considered a social oppor-
tunity, Miss Manners cannot
scold those who make social
overtures over bridge.

However, that is far from
saying that you need ‘to
socialize with the other
players, or answer personal
questions.

What you must learn to do
is to look up blankly after

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any such question, and reply,
“What? | can’t concentrate
on the game and talk.’’ You
are then free to return your
gaze firmly to your cards.

DEAR MISS MANNERS —
1 was always told by my
mother that hats are never
worn after 5 p.m. Lately, [
have been to several cocktail
parties and other events
where I have seen hats on
very well dressed women,
definitely after 5 p.m. What
is the hat rule nowadays?

Drapery Dept.
Quilter Cottage

GENTLE READER — You
may want tO surprise your
mother with a new watch.
She has the right rule, but the
wrong time,

Hat-hats (things of some
presence, which are made out
of felt or straw) are not worn
after 6 p.m. However,
cocktail hats, which are tiny
collectors of miscellaneous
items from what used to be
called the notions depart-
ment, may be worn in the
evening. .

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