C2 - Friday, December 14, 1984 - North Shore News LIFE WITHOUT LAUNDRY Housewives have fantasies, too EAR MISS MANNERS — With disturbing frequency, | will be asked by another woman during a social occasion, *‘What do you do?”’ 1 reply that | work at home, taking care of my tamily and the clerical duties and bookkeeping for my hus- band’s business. Nine times out of 10, the woman will say something like, ‘‘Really? How interesting. I would love to be able to stay home,"’ or “That must be nice. My job as a compuler programmer (electronics engineer, stock- brocker, department store manager, etc.) ts so deman- ding, | rarely have time to relax.”’ The assumption, by members of my own. sex especially, that 1 am a member of the soap opera and bon-bon set because | do not commute to work simply renders me speechless, while | do a slow burn Some of these women do not bother me, they clearly do not mean to offend The majormty, however, whether they realize it or not, are smide and insulting The complete answer to their question would be that | rise at §:45 a.m. to take care of my husband, three teenagers, three dogs, three oncert NORTH WEST Vancouver Ringette Association Belle Blades have embarked on one of the most ambitious fund raising activities ever attemp ted by minor sport on the North Shore The Blades are currently their division Jeader and are planning to attend an invita tonal tournament in bdmon ton) The cost of this trip wall be financed by a benefit Con cert at the Centennial TPheatre January 19 The team used the Van couver talent agenoy IW Whitefoot to find a suitable, popular and enterlamming act The agency arranged for the Sandy Prestey show to cone to North Nan couver for one Saabs pertormrany.¢ Presley miss manners Tr by Judith Martin Pitan es a] cats, a 2,800 square-foot home (including all repairs and pool and vard maintenance), 1,800 pounds of laundry a month, at least 28 hours per week of desk and computer work for the business, and as much child- transporting as can be managed, including the children whose mothers are “at work.’’ This reply is bor- ing and argumentative and would definitely not help the situation. Could you recommend a tew words that, while helping salvage my pride, would be pohte and intelhgent? For those who were deliberately msulting, a vague reference to their ignorance and rudeness would be appreciated As you can tell, | have completely lost my patience and perspective GENTILE READER — Well, yes, you have gotten the thing somewhat out of perspective. Although Muss Manners ts firmly against the now common practice of women minding one another's business” by presuming to say that it as better for any one individual to work inside or outside of the home, she doubts that these people mean to be insulting The fantasy of what a hoh- day hfe outside of an office must be 1 a silly one, but then so is the fantasy, tor those who are at home, that it must be all glamour and ex- to aid ringette 1s 29 years old and is a cousin of the famous Elvis Sandy recreates the Flvis sound on stage and 1s considered by many Flvis fans to have the most authentic Elvis) show ever produced The talented and humorous comedian Tony francis well jorn the Presley show for this concert as d M ¢ Tony is a popular lounge entertainer in the US and has appeared as a guest on major television sereis on cluding the Loveboat There is only one perfor mane planned for Van courer and this wall be one of the best opportunities tor Elvis) fans CO eripos tas rustic and teosupport North West Nanoouvet Ringette Tickets RECENT INCOME TAX CHANGES CAN BENEFIT YOUR “FAVOURITE CAUSE” THE B.C. LIFEBOAT SOCIETY The Standard 5100 00 income tax deduction in heu oft yeed receipty from Registered Chantable Organizations, tS NO LONGE IN rea Chantable Denation deduction The Litebout of the BC. | volunteers Wy oseorh gad rescue operation Noth Shore ctoten You must now fle receipts in order to caima manned ty needs your bnoodal supper to marmtuc ond tucther YOU CAN HELP! Ore gies oy . eth you: doaaton: | | ] are available from N= Van Optimists, N WV Recreation Centre, NV Lions, Time Qut Sports, and all VTC CBO outlets citement at the office. Suppose you reply: “Why, that’s just my problem — I rarely have time to relax, either. But I'm surprised you don’t. | always thought how relaxing 1t must be to work in an office — all those coftee breaks and business lunches! When you work for yourself, your boss is always with you, so you never get to. slack off.’’ DEAR MISS MANNERS — | ama professional, work- ing in a small office. Today, | got a Christmas card from my associate, signed for him and addressed by our office Esthetique Evervone needs to now, 926-5721 Sat. 9:00 to 4:00 ESTHETIQUE “TRADE THAT OLD BED CHESTERFIELD . AND GETA GOOD NIGHT'S SLEEP!” A deluxe wall unit in-an instant a beautiful bed BY DAY A deluxe wall unit know She looks her best. Let us give vou a Festive Look in Make-up with pres- tigious lines such as: a Laneaster, Stendhal Book your Appointment Also offered: Facials. Lash tints, Manicure, Pedicure, Hair Removal Open Mon. to Fri. 9:00 to 8:00, CLAUDETI QUINN 2402 Marine Drive, West Vancouver In our 15th vear of operation secretary, whose handwriting 1 am very well acquainted with, rather than by himself or his wife. | feel so insulted by the 1m- personal nature of this that ! feel like omitting him and his wife from my Christmas hst, a gesture which would pro- bably be unnoticed or misunderstood. Do you have a more constructive suggesiion? DEAR GENTLE READER — Miss Manners thinks business Christmas cards something of a silly practice. (The mild wording means that she is nor willing Holiday Begins at... Claudett Quinn BY NIGHT A beautiful bed to argue the matter or begin a campaign to stamp) them Out.) But if you have a social relauonship with this man she can understand your an- noyance — insult 1s too strong a reacuion — at the card. If you really want to shame them, hand write them a note at home, expressing your warm and friendly wishes for the holidays, and mentioning the esteem in which you hold them. The wife is bound to be touched enough to ask the husband, **What did we send her?’’ and ought to be ashamed at his reply. 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