; psychiatrist: fo

sessions. Then!

happen all. over

tum for help? Inced a whole

all my. ‘efforts, but ‘nothing
much has changed. I seem to
be chock. full of antagonism

and anger. I. find myself
being ‘short with people at —

work’ and. q have ‘kind. of
backed off from: what little

social life I have had. I really
don't want friends although I.
know I would: be better off.

with

affairs,

1 I would like very much to A

love someone and have iy

QUESTION: I’ve just about

made up my mind to get

away, but I don’t feel good
about It, So many things
have gone wrong for me here
and so many people have
misunderstood me:and are
down on me that It's almost
impossible for me to imagine
myself staying on. I picture
myself getting away and
making a whole new start
where nobody knows me.

It really seems like a very
sensible thing to do, and yet
I can't get enthusiastic about
it. I'm not afraid of the new

start — and goodness knows °

I need It — my indecision
seems to have more to do
with leaving here than It has
to do with starting all over.
What do you think?

4 mew way of thinking and that
church I. ‘used to: go. ‘to. and:
although I. have a: feeling.
ther is ‘something there for
me, it is either bad'timing for ~
“me or: ‘something: because: I.
feel even more: -aintagonistic. .
toward the church’'than I did
when I. quit: going. expect a
‘have got some good. out of

is-what I have been. trying so
hard ‘to. discover. ‘No one
seems able’ ti ‘help m me. ‘What

now?
STEWART:

‘It's great’ that you have

‘been: “trying” so. hard! A lot —

‘of people — just settle into

‘their dissatisfaction and’ say,

“I guess that’s the way it: is.
and the way it’s going to be.”
But not you. You. are
searching, and your search
will pay off! I know how blue
you must feel, to have
turned to so many for help
without getting what you
want. Can that be a clue for

‘you? Perhaps. you already
least ‘a few. I have. |

:“know”- which way to- turn
had: a. ‘couple of short-lived

your life around. Perhaps
irs, Walking.out.om.one
and:b ime. damped from: the .

ou -already..“know” which

you. know your

efore leaving

ANSWER: I'm a pushover.
I pet all excited about
anyone wanting tg make a
whole new start in life.
Great! But let’s pay attention
to your feeling low about it.
Perhaps the timing is bad.

Perhaps you would be

“running” rather than
moving into something
fulfilling. There may be

some things you need to do
here before your new start in
another place. You say you

want to “get away”. Perhaps |

that's a clue for you. Perhaps
you want to “get away” from
something rather than
wanting to get away TO
something. Perhaps you
want to “get away” with

“dove reciprocated, but at the -
“‘same.time I don't want to get
-. too close to-anyone. I have.
heen ‘hurt: enough and want
_ to be. very careful that ‘it,
: doesn’ t
. again, lam. 26 years.old and
-, have. been. feeling down like.
this since: my late teens. I'am .
ery very. dissatisfied’ with |
mysel¥ and .- dread © the”
thought of going: on. like this
'* for.a long time. I feel ‘like -
* T've tried ‘everything and all
_.,to, no avail. What way do I.

“way to turn your life around.
Perhaps
answers better than those to
‘whom you have turned for
help.

get a call from you,

" forget your search. for help

from.others and turn to'your. ~
own: ‘higher: ‘self -for.-un-
derstanding. and. even for ;
‘direction.

-‘Start- BEING - “the , chang

you want to: see happen Qo
rather. than asking ‘others
“questions. Somebody” ‘Said to”:
_ me the other day, “It’s easier,
to. behave your way into a °
. new way. of thinking than to-
think your way into a’ new ©
‘way of behaving”. Why give
“two months to:

yourself
practice being the sort of

person you want to.be: Even -
if you don't’ FEEL friendly
right now, you really want ‘to.
be. friendly -don’t you? So:

PRACTICE being. friendly.
Just do it. Then select some

_ other attributes you would
. like to develop: in’ your:lifé

and start - PRACTICING
them. . \

At first,
slightest attention ‘to the,
results. Just BE the change
you want and keep at it.
Alter two months, if you still
sense there is nothing to

celebrate as result of your .

practicing being the change
you want to see happen, give
me a call and. we'll talk
things over. Pil bet Fil never
because
you've got what you need to
be fulfilled, and you'll start
being delighted about it.

-

’ something (like running out

on a responsibility).

Perhaps you want to “pet
away” from making your
new start right here where it
as hard for you. Some bright

soul said, “You can’ never
really get away — you can
only take yourself

somewhere else", but the
self you take somewhere else
will be, the same self you
don't want to live with right
here.

I hope you get on with the
new start. So attend to
unfinished business here
(which, of course, is a part of
the new start) and you will
feel better about leaving -—
or perhaps about staying.

New Years Eve

Ball!

at the Lynnwood Motor Hotel

only *25.00 per. couple

9pm-2am.

Western & Chinese Smorgasbord

A would like:. to’ see. ydu_

- even if I do: ‘say So

don't pay ‘the - develop my

that. ‘and I cut. any ere off:
from. them.~ Since then, . 7

feel pretty good about how,
Tve done. I've done. well at

work, I've got'my own 'place,.:

account:: During | that. time; :

Tve ‘only ‘seen them about |

three. timeés. I ‘needed ‘to.
‘own ‘in-

dependence and I've. done it!

. Now, they are after me to get

back with them. They Say

Are you photogenic?

“If you are .
and you'd like to
pose as a Sun-
shine Girl then I'd
like to hear from
you. The Sunshine

Girl of the North Shore
News is a bright, fresh
feature and has enormous
popularity with readers, ad-
vertisers, and the models

themselves.

“In the years that I've been
photographing Sunshine Girls,
it has become apparent that
women 17 years and older have
the poise and confidence to
project the strong aesthetic
qualities demanded of this _,
photo feature. As far as |
possible. I'd like to have

models ot that age.

develop” your

“have done it. So why not get
Ihardly. owe any ‘money : ato

 fogether. again?. “Two years
all‘and I’ve started a: savings.

“ago you were a‘rebel, witha

being a rebet without a_

~You.say you needed. 10 van
own: -in-...
dependence “and. that.-you.

cause. You feel you did well.
So why ~ continue — the
rebellion? > - a

delightful: indep ndence
deteriorate
more. than a spitefu
dependence. And if ‘it does
that. you've lost “the
rebellion. ‘Surely you ‘ar
. safe 1 now. Why. not find. out?

There's. not much sense in

cause.

With gratitude for

* The North Shore is blessed with a great many
attractive women. If any of you would like a paid
‘modelling assignment’ as a Sunshine Girl,
please write to mé, include in your letter your
phone number and arecent photograph. No
phone calls, please.” °

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