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" QUESTION: This fs for the -
man who hed an affair and:
wanted to confess it to his
wife. My urgent advice is:
don’t be so stupid.and crael
as to confess it. It was your
stupidity and you should
carry it alone.

’ Two years ago, my hus-
band, to “clear his con-
science,’? made a similar -
confession to me. I had been
married to him or 18 years .
and the sheck made me ill.-.
When the inner storm was

over, I found I had become —

another perser. My trust in

my husband was nil and my |

whole attitcde toward men
had undergone a strange
change.-I felt remote. from
them as if they lived on one
planet and I om another.

I have been thinking of
divorce. My husband says he
is desperately sorry for what
he did and I believe him, yet
I can feel myself withdrawing
from him. J had trusted him
completely, yet he: stabbed
me in the back. : =.

And how does the wife
react to “‘the other woman’’? ©
I have never used violence in
my life, yet when I was

QUESTION: “How in the
world do you handle this?
We have some very geod
friends in the East who have
written sayliig ‘they ~ would. |

during their. summer - vaca-
tion time. [They have three
weeks!] Their dates: are not.
convenient to us at all.

| We don’t want them to
come at that time. What can
we say because they are good
friends and we don’t want

‘

QUESTION: “About tree.
years ago I 6

program ‘of. self-

way for many years and was
quite used to it. I’ve been

working; on / breaking. ‘that:

pattern and am happy about
the progress to date...

However, 1. find myself
longing for more of the good
ae of life. I want to” "act a

an all he othors like It] the -
Oscars have to be the dullest ©

sta onthe. Wy deter

Morbid? .

“April 7,.1976 - North Shore News _

- 100 per cent sure I woaldn’t

heavy metal lamp and once

“see what is. happening and..-

‘this. crisis. has offered you.
You are creating your own

- peeling from my husband's
confession. I many times —
made careful and solemn
plans to murder her. I went
slightly mad during this
period which lasted about 9
months. There was murder
in my heart which I would
have carried out had I been

be caught. I attacked my
husband twice, once with a'

with a hammer.

I felt I just had to tell this
man just what s confession
can do. A confession can
destroy another human
being. ts the name of mercy,
do not do it. .

STEWART: Neither what

your husband did, nor his |

confession of it is destroying
you. You are destroying
yourself.

I hope that. soon you will.
take hold of the opportunity.
reality: ‘Why not start doing

‘it on the foundation of love -
father than hate?.

them to think we , don’t “want |
to see them. We've got other

. plans all. ‘made. for our
wo vacation...

: like to: come ‘and: visit'us —

STEWART: I “euémbes “a ae
similar question being asked ©

_a few months ago.. You |

should write’ them’ ‘immedi-. .
ately, telling them that this .
year you: have‘ your plans all

made and that you will not be
in town at the'time e they. are”

here. ."°

“lot: closer . to: my

‘this stage. in my We: —
falfilment?

a

STEWART: 1 think you i ase’
right in the midst of the’ most
_important:-thing ‘for: ‘you' —

recognizing your hunger: for

'-g full life and reaching out
toward it in your own way.

Now give yourself’. ‘some

yourself to be. “open” vand,

ibe for 1

“potential,
What do. you: “think the most |
prive. important thing fs for me at

ment, I was quite hate: 2
always wanting to withdraw |
from people. I had been that .

Freelance Counsellor Hayden}:
Stewart does private counselling “4
jas well as a great deal of group] |
work. He-can be. contacted at}.
261-6242 © for information ™ and]. .
-“arel:
‘always: welcome. Mail them to
HAYDEN STEWART; c/o: the}

appointments. Letters

North Shore News, 202-1139
Lonsdale, North Van.

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“Ifyou feel li like doing it, ” you. Joon
_ might offer to let them use
your home for part-of the. .
.time. But even if you can’t do
that, be sure.to be. clear-cut -

, about’ your

plans ©:
' drawn up. And don’t say that

_. you are sorry. Let'them know ™....
. that ‘some other time might \*

: be all right, or that perhaps

‘next summer you could work |

out something

together.
: Sticke to your plans!”

‘geceptive to. what is next for

you in your evolvement. .

See these: tinies: as: ‘oppor:

tunities: to: Avecharge .. ‘your —
J batteries, to get next to life,
‘to say ‘yes’ to thé spirit of

‘truth and lové which is at the

‘heart: of. the suhiverse.: That’

‘may sound. pretty vague, but »
‘if you allow it to be a ‘non
_ self-protecting adventure, it --
“will GIVE to'you right where
solitary quiet time to allow oe

you I live. e: Jump in!

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