I have. a it may ‘sound: hildish’ ‘but I are 19, but because of this them, 80 ‘why pretend’ IT wish them happiness? - Here's” ‘my y problem, my parents Monit: es: him cand. the fact. that: we are getting married’ or that we have been engaged for over a year. .My relatives don't know of our plans | -because my parents ‘never mention the fact that-we are. engaged. At ‘first it did not bother me that they. - wouldn't. “help, > BOW however, I'am finding it very. , difficult without a mother to ask. , My flance’s parents are very nicé-and are helping us out as far as-possible. I have always wanted a big wed- ding, even asa child, but now I-must seftle for a poor wedding, which I can’t help, nor ..can my: fiance and his L plan. to make the say ‘Happy: New Year. P well, ( % College is elfen the: credit free course, Publishing Your Book. «, This. highly successful course is designed for both writers who are writing their first book and those who have - previously been published. Instructor Richard Wright, author of . several books on B.C., will be. teaching the two part course, Should I pretend it doesn’t matter and go on smiling and. being nice?.Or remain cool and distant? Another thing, do-I have the right to tell them to leave if they show up at our wedding ‘after not giving a damn for ‘three years? . STEWART: Sure, you have the right to tell them to leave: It’s your wedding, not theirs.’ That would be a dandy way to shaft them and to make sure that you are unhappy and ashamed of yourself and aware that you are acting like a little kid. You'd have three unhappy people in one effort. And if your fiance has any sen- Sitivity, he would be unhappy and ashamed of you, and perhaps even a bit doubtful if he should have married you. His “very nice” parents would also be scared to death of their son marrying you. If that’s the . sort of start you want in your . Marriage, go toit. You know what? I think . you're too young to get married. Not because you Part one of the course, on Friday night, includes in- formation on the idea of the book, researching, manu- script preparation and basic approaches, and is mainly oriented towards writers who are still in the process of writing. Part two is a two-day weekend seminar covering such topics as the market, finding a publisher, copy- right, illustrations, con- sking for letter you have sent us. . Why. “not wait.six months or so and — get things straightened out? You have not said a thing about WHY your parents are - taking such -drastic action, except that they “don’t like him”. Perhaps they have some very important reason for not liking him. My suggestion ‘still stands. Postpone. the wedding. Not * because your parents don’t like your fiance, nor because you are 19, but because your attitude toward life makes me feel strongly that you would blow the marriage. By the way,” why should your parents tell your relatives about the engagement and marriage if they are unhappy about it — or even if they were delighted? That’s your privilege and responsibility. Are you estranged from your relatives too? Come on, bride-to-be, you're making great big things out of dinky things and making dinky things out of great big ones. And as sure as shooting, if you decide on petty bit- terness against your parents, youll soon see petty bit- terness toward your man. Their petty bitterness is enough. Don’t you get sucked into it too. tracts, royalties, legal and libel considerations and much more. Although the emphasis is directed to non- fiction this is valuable for fiction writers as well. Enroliment in Publishing Your Book is limited, so early registration is recom- mended. For more infor- mation or to register, phone Capilano College at 986- 1911, local 321. : candidates views FROM PAGE C1 associated with the high level of illiteracy in this areca; (1976 census shows 12,000 adults with less than gradc nine in the North Vancouver and Capilano con- stituencies.|. 2) To invite candidates to visit local adult basic education progranis; 3) To survey candidates’ attitudes. about this critical social problem. - Duvall also stated that the public, government officials, and elected party representatives all appear to be cither unaware or in. different to the problems of the functionally illiterate He added, “The problem is not going to go away Because the number of people now dropping from high schools 1s out the same or greater than the number of pcople who graduate, the problem is going to get larger. The numbers of undereducated adults are increasing, but government support for adult’ basic education progams continues to be erratic, sporadic, and ad- ministered on a piecemeal rather than any regular basis. We are gravely concerned about = main- taining programs for adults under such financial con- ditions. By conducting these Mectings with the can- didates, we hope more people will come to share our concern ” Results of the survey will be made available to the public as well as the local and province-wide members of the ABRABC, before the February 18 ciection Included tn the survey will be questions about the candidates’ views of the seriousness of the illiteracy problem in their electoral districts, the roles of the federal and provincial governments in funding adult basic education programs, the desirability of living allowances for ABE students, the subjects which should be covered in ABE courses, and the candidates’ intentions to make the needs of the functionally illiterate adults in their clectoral districts a priority for party and government action. The Adult Basic Education Association of British Columbia was organized in 1979. It now has a membership of 200 throughout the province Further information about adult basic cducation. the Association, or the survey now being conducted may be had from the Association's President, Barbara Bowniar at Douglas College: 530-5138 my husband and he's a wonderful guy, but my birthday came _up last week and he forgot all about it! Should I tell him how mad I am or should I just quietly burn? STEWART: That's not fair just giving me two alter- natives. I don't like either -- Free . for appointments for office in.the-Inter. convenience of North S QUESTION: I dearly love nce Coursella or Hayde one of them. “May I Ssub- stitute a third? Why not-get | all alone and then,:out loud, express your gratitude for “having a husband you love, who is “a wonderful guy”. Then start laughing about ’ this ‘wonderful. guy who can forget something that seems . to be™ very important to you. What a ninny of a wonderfyl guy you have for a husband! “Stewart may be rea ily or group counselling. His new dents (Open Tuesdays ony) is for the idents.*" even start him . ‘ahead your: birthday came along and he'll. feel like a fool. Don't “tell him” or “quietly burn”. Why not giggle? Consider the marrieds. QUESTION: I read your column a lot and have gone to your talks at the Plaza Hotel. What I want to ask fs, have you ever considered having a sort of seminar where married couples can have a lot of time. to think things out together? STEWART: We just got back from one! There'll be others I am sure: Are you. themselves. interested for yourself? Nothing is scheduled now, but we might do another in the spring or early fall. The definitive politition QUESTION: “You never seem to mention anything political. Why not? Perhaps you never get political questions, so here’s one. Do North Shore girls . . . _ have been appearing in the NEWS for years as ‘Sunshine’ Girls’. This photo feature Is a constant delight to readers, advertisers, and the models NEWS Sunshine Girl, If you want a pald modelling assignment as a 1 want to hear from you you think Clark or Trudeau or the other guy will win the election in February. STEWART: Yes. Write to me at the NORTH SHORE NEWS and in- clude in your letter a recent photograph and your phone number. I'll call you as soon as | can and set up an appointment Ellsworth Dickson 50 VEROR OF PHEETT EN Aatte UTNE Wasem@ERIVEm sunday 11 39 Lonsdale Avenue, rn ews: North Vancouver north shore V7M 2H4 news