42 - Sunday, September 1, 1991 —- North Shore News

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HOROSCOPES

‘Heads

I lose,

tails you win’

IN MY therapeutic counselling practice, I facilitate com-
munication between people who do not know how to keep
a discussion from becoming a fight.

Arguments can appear out of
nowhere and leave everyone
furious with nothing resolved.
Last Sunday’s column and the
next few provide pointers to help
you avoid useless battles.

“Heads 1 lose, tails you win.
The double-message trap:’’
Double-message fights are
pointless. Nothing can ever be ac-
complished by them.

In a double-message dilemma,
you appear to have two very dif-
ferent choices of behavior, But
you. really have no choice!
Whichever behavior you _ pick,
you're going to be ‘‘wrong.’’ So
why argue about it? .

For example, a husband ma
urge his wife to get a well-paying
job to help with the family ex-
penses. Then, he may begin con-
stantly telling her that her income
is undermining his place in the
family. Fights erupt.

If she doesn’t help pay the bills,
he says she’s not interested in the
Strain he’s under. If she dces br-
ing in money, he also says she’s
not interested in the strain it puts
him under.

People who chronically give off
double messages are doing it un-
consciously. They themselves are
confused about the subject. If you
attempt to show them that they
are putting you in a predicament,
they will often insist that you are
completely wrong.

People trapped in a continual
round of double messages often
feel overwhelmed. The key point
that they often do not see is that
they cannot win!

You cm free yourself from
long-term (chronic) double
messages by taking your problem
and figuring out alternatives.

Ask yourself what would hap-
pen if you acted in a certain way.
If you realize that this solution
won't work because someone
yow’re emotionally close to will be
critical or angry, stop.

Next, think out what would
happen if you tried other solu-
tions. If you realize the same per-
son will be displeased no matter
which direction you go in, then
you are caught in a double-

- message trap. The moment you

realize that you cannot please that
person in this particular matter,
you have the problem half licked.

Next, say to yourself, ‘‘Since it
is impossible for me to please
him/her about this, I might as
well please myself.’’ Then do so.

Be prepared for the double-
message sender to keep you strug-
gling in contradictory directions.
If you just reply, ‘‘This is what
I’ve decided to do about it,’’ the
battle will eventually be over. It
takes two to fight.

Next week: ‘Mind Reading.’’

For the week of Sept. 1-7, 1991
ALL SIGNS

Mercury is now ‘‘direct,’’ so...
go for it! Mars enters Libra on
the Ist. We are all more assertive
now. Powerful free-flowing
energies prevail on the 2nd. As of
the 4th, breakthrough time! Cool
passions on the Sth. You can af-
ford to be optimistic on the 6th
and 7th.

T Aries (March 25-April 20)

Monday, Aries, you turn on the
charm. Others, responsive. Plenty of space
for growth, Tuesday. Mid-week, accent crit-
icism offered in the spirit in which it is
given. Thursday could bring romance. Take
care of loose ends, Friday. Saturday, you
are adventurous,

Taurus (April 21-May 2)
You can make a lop impression an
others now, Taurus. Jeb interview? Give it

BEAVENS ABOVE

your best. Your mate tries to manipulate,
mid-week. An effort being made for your
own good. Someone speaks harshly, Friday.
Don’t talk back just yet.

Gemini (May 22-June 23)

Sunday, Gemini, a new creative
cycle begins. You may be moved, Monday,
by a gesture of tave. You deserve it. Mid-
week, keep your end of a bargain you made
earlier. Good news regarding a friend, Fri-
day. Find something new and exciting to do,
Saturday.

$3 Cancer (Sune 22-Jaly 23)
Sunday and Monday, Cancer, push
ahead. Nlusions and deceptions run ram-
pant, mid-week. Focus on facts. Thursday,
you tend to be extravagant. An error in
judgment, Friday, may be hard to mend.
Saturaay, a chance to meet a real-life hero,

‘Leo (July 24-Aug. 23)

Monday, Leo, have fun. A_ call
from a friend, Thursday, sends you down
memory lane. There is a potential marriage
blow-up, mid-week. Be very diplomatic.
Thursday, you glow. Personality-wise, you
are really ‘“‘out there," Friday. Saturday,
pamper yourself. Massage?

tly Virge (Aug. 24-Sept. 23)

You best serve yourself as well as
everyone else, Virgo. Monday, create some
alone time. Tuesday, storm clouds gatiier in
the life of a friend. Offer help. The friend
will be thankful. Mid-week, assert yourself.
Friday, a dream proves prophetic. Make
some changes at home, Saturday.

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Libra (Sept. 24-Oct. 23)
Monday, Libra, pick up the phone.
Make contact. Tuesday brings an offer con-
cerning the advancement of your education.
Relax, keep a low profile, mid-week. Fri-
day. you are forgetful. Some gossip disturbs
you, Saturday.

Me Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22)
Work on health and fitness now,
Scorpio, Tuesday, you seem determined to
pursue a relationship which has already
caused pain. Thursday, don’t take personal-
ly a remark which was made in a general
sense. Give yourself a change of pace this
weekend.

ZR Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21)

Monday, your judgment is
challenged on a family matter. You have
made the right choice. Set firm goals this
week and stick with them. Be discreet Fri-
day, when discussing a matter of mutual in-
terest with a friend. A short trip spells fun,

Saturday.
B Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 20)
You may decide to make a change
in your dict and exercise routine, Capricorn.
You may be making decisions Wednesday,
about renewing your schooling. A challenge
to your integrity, Thursday, is answered
immediately. You guard your reputation,

NY Aquarius (Jan. 21-Feb, 19)
Sunday, Aquarius, take a trip.
Monday, pay attention to what is said.
You'll learn something. Attract less atien-
tion to yourself, Tuesday. Thursday is for
relaxation, Friday, a casual eucounter can
suddenly sizzle. Saturday, your attitude

makes or breaks tne day.
3€ Pisces (Feb, 20-March 20)
Monday, Pisces, do something sil-
ly. Tuesday is one of those days when you
barely notice what is going on. Do some
writing, Wednesday. Don’t force a confron-
tation, Thursday. You feel closer to your
ideals, Saturday. Your spiritual side is rich
and full,

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