OPPORTUNITIES ARE EVERYWHERE Last Sunday this column concerned itself with what appears to be an increasingly common difficulty in love relationships. It had to do with two fears - the fear of rejection and the fear of loving. I claimed that uncon- ditional love was most ef- fective in lessening those two fears, and, indeed, almost any fear. I am aware however that I] had nothing to say about how to allow that love to come alive in your experience. So I would like to leave with you one tned and proven way to make a start in becoming a better lover. A few years back, Arleen Lorrance, a New York high school teacher, started to share a few lines which had “come to me,” (as she says), about her claim that “Love Works.” Some time ago we quoted her principles in the ASK HAYDEN STEWART column and have often referred to them since. It seems to me this is a good time to reprint what came to be known as The Love Project Principles. One word of friendly warning. Just to read them amounts to nothing much more than a sentimental journey. But to practice them is something else again. If you are afraid of rejection, or afraid of loving, why not give them a go? Here they are. THE LOVE PROJECT PRINCIPLES - BE the change you want to see happen, instead of trying to change everyone else. - Receive all people as beautiful exactly where they are. Birds binge before storm Birds appear to sense an impending storm before humans do and they respond by going on eating binges, says University of Guelph zoologist Dr. Alex Mid- dleton. He says the birds ap parently attempt to fatten themselves because of the likelihood that foraging will be more difficult during the storm. Dr. Middleton noted this behaviour im a group of American goldfinches during a recent severe winter storm in southern Ontario. Three days before the storm, Dr. Middleton set a trap baited with food, weighed the trapped birds, placed identification bands on their legs and released them. An hour before the storm broke, many birds came and frantically competed with each other for the food in the traps. Among them were many of the banded birds. When Dr. Middleton weighed the banded birds this second time, they were significantly heavier than they had been at their first weighing. All the birds were released again. When banded birds were recaptured and weighed several days after the storm, their weight had dropped again. Dr. Middleton adds that the birds were aware of the storm an hour before its direct effects were apparent to humans. He suggests the birds were sensitive to barometnc pressure, which fell rapidly just before the storm. - Provide people with op- portunities to give. - Perceive problems as opportunities. - Have no specific ex- pectations, but rather, abundant expectancy. - Create your own reality consciously, rather than C5 - Sunday, May 22, 1983 - North Shore News There is no such thing as a problem the growing edge by Hayden Stewart living as if you had no control over your life. REMEMBER: Choice is the life process. In every new moment of awareness, you are free to make a new choice. The newest moment of awareness is NOW. P.S. from Hayden: I want to Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242 for appointments for individual. family or group counselling be clear in crediting Arleen Lorrance as the author of these Principles. She may be reached at: THE LOVE PROJECT P.O. Box 7601 SAN DIEGO, California 92107 CITY OF NORTH VANCOUVER - Garbage Pickup Notice - Monday, Victoria Day Garbage Pickup will be made on Tues., May 24, one hour earlier than normal. There will be no other pickup changes during the week. If you would like to place your advertisement in this spectal feature call Cathrine at 980-0511 STOREWIDE SALE . 25% Off All Stock ... Saturday May 28 Only Save 25% on all merchandise in Stock inchading all dinnerware, bone ching animals cups & saucers & flordis Canadian crants, Chotstmas decorations — music boxes collectibles jewellery crystal glcrss otc The 26% ts not applic cabble to items aheady on sale of orderm to be picked up CANYON HOUSE 3590 Capilano Road, North Vancouver 768-5169 Open 7 Days a Week NV HNL SS Towel Sale! featuring “Bxcellence™ & “Allure” Bath Hand Face sale 11,99 sale 8.99 sale 3.99 Matching Tub Mats & Bath Sheets A greatassorment ol PiELDCREST Cuiaiato alh Shon The Unique Bath Boutique Ince. Est 1973 W 4th Cat Arbutus) Vance 733-3226 reg SSIO) om ae® JEWELLERY DESIGNER LEASE END SALE 40% OFF TR Laslo Traer 5 Designer Original ln tym Valley next to Royal Bank 14K Sold (© pocal 2x3 pl Dicannonds 987-1322 Rita Moore 13448 Marine Drive eseens time of processing for $199 $999 36 Ono nat ine hadoed Offer ong dune JO Ri OPTIX the Classic Eyewear Specialist Faceted Look West Vancouvel SPECIAL OFFER! enpsenpeueepeneose ONE extra set of prints at | up to 24 exposures exposures bs of aA TOTEMCOLOR Fim Laboratories Lta. eupecaeceeeeraseang 199 E. tat Street, N. Van 086-2271 14 styles to Chouse trom 925-1522