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Q. T am “upset by ‘your endorsing pornographic materials .

and.telling wives to tolerate them. My own experience has
been bad. My husband and I were married 13 years before

we separated (two children).

Besicaliy I wanted ort because
of my consinnt desire for more
sex. I was getting very little
because be. ‘just wasn’t intezest-
ea.” He also conveyed to me that I

Thea I discovered he was haun-

_ (ting pomo movie. beuses and live

apart and be has hit bottom.

“He wants to quit his addiction to
porn and solitary sex. He is going
to an addiction ternpist. I don’t
want him back, bet I do want to
see him get real belp. What chance
has he to change and start haviag 2
nornazl life? ‘

A. I was on_a talk show the
other day and. someone asked me
about ‘sexual addiction. I don’t
know what sexual addiction is.

I think some people are getting

‘ help from support groups that talk
about sex addiction, and I don’t
put such groups cown. I think
‘harmful behavior is being modified
by membership in them. But sexual
addiction is not a concept in sex
therapy, and by that I mean that

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we don’t find that idea usable for

helping people improve’ their, sex .

lives.
What chance has your ex? I

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for his behavior: long-term prefer-
ence for masturbation with por-

nographic stimulation. Maybe (pO. /
body is nagging him in: that. fan- |.

tasy-based sex life. Maybe nobody
tells kim he should be grateful for
getting sex from her when he

reaches orgasm with pornography. .
Talk to a therapist — probably-.

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very likely would help; that is what
I would ‘recommend, but I don’t

condemn his present ‘social course. -

Behavior. modification definitely
can help a person out of this kind
of behavior, and maybe that is in
fact what he is getting.

When a man avoids sex with his
wife, whether or not he habitually
looks at sexually explicit maga-
zines, videos, movies or stage
shows, then there is a problem. I

do suggest to some people that.

they try looking at things like that
sometimes when their store of
sex-enriching fantasies seems

meagre.

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An exclusive interest in such ma-
-terials,. with avoidance of society
‘or marital sex, is anather matter
requiring professional attention.

Q. I am a women pushing 86,
widowed 29 years. Some times of

‘the month my need for sex drives

me wid. I understand there sare
devices one can use ts help one
reach sexual climax.

A. I have no doubt that you
have strong. sexual urges, but it is
interesting that you say you have
them, at nearly 80, at certain times
of the month. That would seem
more likely in a pre-menopausal
woman. However, I.do not doubt

“you in the least — only. it is inter-

esting. Does the calendar so long
linked with. your 28-day ‘cycle,
prompt you to have bigger needs?

Anyway, you can get sex aids of '

the kind you want by mail order.
Look in the ads in one of the sexy

‘magazines. You can get a cata-

logue and select the vibrator or
whatever looks right to you. There.

1 go again, recommending sexy f

reading material.
we I think I have.a classic case
penis envy. As 2 littie girl I
fanatized that I had a male organ
while pleasuring myself.. Now { am

engaged, and .we have sex, but I

resent his being # mac.
It’s ruining our sex “lite. I could

‘never goto a therapist because I

am too embarrassed to taik about
it. Sometimes I have to wonder if I
am gay.

A. I beg you to overcome that
fear of talking about it. You have
already taken the step by writing to
a media sex adviser; I think that
was, for you, putting a toe in the
water. Now take further’ steps

‘toward getting professional help.

Make a list of psychotherapists
and psychologists or clinics where
such services are offered, and keep
it on hand. The moment will come

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dial a phone number.

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