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Man once again faces ‘mechanical’ marital bed

Q. | AM in
marriage, and
the sex is boring. My se-
cond wife, like my first
wife, has ceased to excite
me in quite the same way.

my second
once again

Dr. Ruth
Westheimer

ASK DR. RUTH

The irony is that E left my first
wife for this one. When TF think of
the money I spent on the divorce,
only to end up in the same marital
bed.

In the dark, I wouldn't: know
the (wo apart. [I could be making
tove to either one of them, so
mechanical has this all become.

Why mast this happen?

At feast this time, | &now better
thas to think it wouldn't happen
again, But is there no cure for
sexual ennui?

AL Your fetter might serve as a
Marning to men who are thinking
about) trading one wife for
another one!

Has it occurred to you that vou
might do something to make sex
more eNxeiting and less boring?
You seem to place all the blame
for “sexual ennui’ on women.
Try doing something different.
is true chat sex is not boring for
newlyweds, and that is because
everything is new and different co
them.

If you want excitement, you
should create it. Try different
positions, new ways of touching
and kissing and stroking. Be more
romantic.

Those tomantic gestures make
women feel, and act, sexier. Con-
centrate on pleasing your partner,
and maybe you will get so lost in
her pleasure you'll forget to be
bored.

Q. My boyfriend hates it that I
use a diaphragm. He says it's
old-fashioned, something his
mother prohably used. We are in
our 20s, so his mother, who is
fortysomething, probably did use
a diaphragm. Does that make it a
had thing to do?

foam afraid of the pill, which

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