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people have it better than we
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fortunately. there is a great
big ugly but for us to contend

with) I have one gosh-awful

temper that threatens to lay
waste our “perfect”

relationship. I have-a very
long fuse, but when I ex-
plode it is just horrible. I do
things that are almost un-

forgiveable and say things I

‘do not mean at all. It is just

too much for my wife to

handle. She fs at her wits’
end. What can I do?

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STEWART: Don’t wait for
that long fuse of yours to get

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’ wonderful “bit .of «wisdom:

- GIVE WHAT: YOU*WANT

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So, you- ‘need. someone-to
put your arms around; you.

people within reach, of you
have« the ‘same hungers, or.
aré “longing for ‘friéndship
with someone who, like you,
needs and wants some of the
warmth and love that they
have and want to offer.

close’ tothe explosion. You
will. -know when it is
beginning to burn, and that
is the time to act — long
before the blow-off. Tell
your wife how much you
hate your temper and how
much you want to find a
better way. And ask her to
help you.

As soon as you feel the
slow burn starting, say to
her, “Hey — I'm scared. I
need your help. I love you. I
don’t want to be awful with
you. Hold me in your arms.
I'm not going to blow-off this
time. Let's talk and talk and
keep on hugging. I love you,
but I find it so hard to handle
this kind of thing. Please
don’t preach at me, just give
me a little time”. Before,

A reason for t

QUESTION: No one would
disagree with “killing
animals to supply annceded

coats” as being poor
practice. (‘Sharing
Allergies” — December

12th.) But perhaps you don’t
reallze there are different
reasons why people wear fur
coats. Let me tell you mine.

{ am a mother of five,
raising them by miysell,
without a full-time income.
About ten years ago my
mother bonght me my far
coat when we were living In
Winnipeg. At that time I did
not have a car and this
precious gift kept me from
freezing when } shopped for
food and necessities. 1
continue to wear it because |
believe we should all make
good use of the things we
already HAVE, instead of
spending money needlessly.

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Because my fur coat lasts
so long, In winter I can
contribute to others’ needs
because I do not have to buy
another coat. Have you
noticed how many older
people wear fur coats? Often
a grandmother will forego
luxuries (Uke a new coat) to

traditional
spanish
snacks

Lunch
noon to 2 p.m.

Dinner from 5:30
1B1W. Esplanade

pre
tivities: ‘that: are: offered. at
“Neighborhood House: or the

- Libraries.. Choose: to-switch

‘WILL FIND YOU HAVE

Community . Centres or

things ‘around so. you-can.go
to these places with the idea
of GIVING friendship rather
than ‘hunting for it: F-have a
who wrote’ this.

TO. RECEIVE. AND. YOU

WHAT YOU THOUGHT ,
YOU. WERE LACKING.

Why not give it a try? Itisa
beautiful. and exciting

possibility for you. And you
are NEEDED so much!

during a: and: after that sort of
little speech, CHOOSE to be»
kind to yourself and:to your

wife. CHOOSE to ‘keep your

coo

Obviously, you can’t do
that sort of thing for the rest
of your life. You'll want to
talk with someone who can
help you focus on what is
happening and ways open to
you to take charge of
yourself.

Your letter says, “I am a
very warm and loving fellow.
That is really my gature”.
Thank God for that and
remind yourself of it
repeatedly. When the fuse
starts burning, RUN (don't
walk) to the mirror and say
to yourself. “I am a very
warm and loving fellow”.

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help her allergy-prone-
grandchild to have a new
coat in the latest style.

She will ask you to become a

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