page 4 March oi 31;1976 North Shore re'News:* “ there are so many good things I like about myself - * sald they’d -pay QUESTION: . recently. I have been taking. a pretty. good look at myself. I- see a guy that bas a pretty. good mind, Ive got a real neat body "and: it’s healthy. and I don’t have | ‘any: big : handicaps. My folks are. nice enougk and‘are OK financially. My biggest beef about them is _ that they’re a bit wingy about booze. I keep hoping they won’t get worse. The other thing that bothers me about them is really the same thing that bothers me most about my whele life and that is that - they don’t seem real close to ‘ me..In fact, nobody does. I'm sort of surprised that because really I’ve never felt happy about me. I’ve got this | good body, but in sports I never expect to really. do well. If I just make the team that’s been enough for me. £ never feel like: could be one. of the good players. . QUESTION: My wife and I have had ‘a bad couple of . _years and are now in the | idst of a co ling series - th the fdew of motion we counselling and. really, throw = yourselves into: it. . with the idea of ‘getting an answer to “Can this marri- age be saved?’’ The irony of it is ‘that Pm not sure. whether I want to save .our - marriage. . Until I know. for. sure .‘that -I- _want. “the marriage, why have .counsel- - Hing? (om: ‘mot ‘gure my. wife. : wants. the ‘marriage. elther]., STEWART:? Don't quit on it when you are aot sure. Ask im 1. ‘and The. same. with 1 my. head. ia I average out with aC prade — -’'m quite content.: Until just . recently I- have never even — dreamed that I. have the stuff. in me to-do. pretty. darn well in school:: ° ; : ' | don’t. know. what made . ‘me start to think out* this - thing, but since Pve been. doing. it, ’'m beginning to think that I may have just got everyone is better than me. Is that a possibility? And if it ‘isa possibility. why would I. get started in: thinking | I Was :, sort of blah? =.= ‘Pve figured out that I don't really have to. be. sort: of mediocre, but [still feel that : way. What’s happening to. _me? Where do I go now? > STEWART: You’ve asked four questions: | 1. As. possible you’ve got in the habit of seeing. yourself as" ‘blah? Answer: Yes. 2. If so, why. would: I get started ‘thinking ‘that ‘way? _ “Answer: Like most of.us, you have. believed what - your your counsellor to help. you with ‘‘person enrichment”’ counselling. vather | . than ‘marriage . ’. énrichment” As each of you gets help in in enriching his own life (not.to. save @ marriage, but to-save- a ‘couple of people), you will quite probably come to know more surely what you want in - regard: ‘to “your - marriage. Give ita real good fo and - ‘avoid the-business of. won- dering for 40 years if you. gave up too soon.. Sitter suspects QUESTION: I think Pm in. the middle of a rip-off. I’ve been babysitting for a couple with two kids. My arrange- ments include so’ much an not home. Tuesday, they said they had.te go shopping. I - think they are going to rip me © voff. What will I do? ‘hour and payment on the | night of the job. Last Saturday they didn’t have the money on thém and me. on. Monday. Monday : they were. _ Sometimes yagotta stifle QUESTION: I’ve just. got. to STEWART: By the time you read this, I'll wager you will have been paid. -If, so, you will have learned that it is not - -very usefyl to get Suspicious too.soon, “: My friends ‘say say that ~ parents” cand brothers & ‘and. teachers seemed to you to be’. teaching you about yourself.’ : Without thinking much,; you have swallowed this tripe ‘as it Freelance | Counsellor Stewart does private counselling. “appointments. Up. cre the place where. I’m getting just because I feel angry used to dealing with a doesn’t ‘mean ‘Tm to. act’ sisters . “and: friends: . true. questioning the- validity- of - what you think people have “been “‘teaching”’ you about . : lf. Y: are sayi into the habit of thinting 7°” you. are saying, Hayden as.well as a great deal of group ‘work. He: canbe contacted at 261-6242 for: information and ' Letters’ are ‘always welcome. ‘Mall them to “HAYDEN STEWART, c/o the — | North. ‘Shore- -News,. #202-1139 - Lonsdale, ‘North Van. ‘ify you: have not been paid, - write out.a bill for them and ., deliver it’ in person. Tell . them. you: will need = the: money. and ask them if there: will be a convenient. time in - the next day or two when you . can come: around and: Pick it it: 7 ‘think they will pay. you a then and there, or explain _why they can’t. 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But 1 hasten: to ‘tell you that one - for. my; prawer- is. ¢ because I know 5 J very” little’: it, 1. Wave®’ never: developed enough interest or cutlosity to" Strange too. ima ‘gortified Per expert.on ‘everything, else in’. the world of man's thinking“ and experience except, this: one area, But you knew that,” Ul “ier angry. I thought that’s what . understanding of the word ° ‘It’s all about. Am q wrong? .. “‘accepting”’ . Accepting your : feelings . doesn’t. mean.'you | - STEWART: Congratulations “are free to say, ‘‘That’s how I on getting to a place in your. feel, "so if you don’t like’ it, life where you are better able © lump «it.’” ‘For example, to “recognize and. accept . “accepting’’ «