t- Cl2 - Wednesday, August 19, 1981 - North Shore News popular here. I sort of fee] at home and quite safe. You know what I mean? But my parents have been transferred to — out so naturally and now I'll have to leave all my friends and go to new. I have no brothers or sisters and FR juse have my parents. What I want to ask you fs do you happen to know what kids are like in — ? Will I feel like an odd ball? Do they have the same interests there that we do here? How big a change will it be? How do you go about moving in as a stranger and Beware of inhaling compliments QUESTION: I was walking through one of the big stores the other day and saw, approaching me, a guy ! have known for a loug time. In fact, you might call him am old friend. (This is not a me, but as we got quite close to each other, I saw that he ied not seen who it was and was about to pass are. I said “HE to him and he rather shyly said, “Oh gosh, I nearly missed you. J did not took at your face because I was busy lovely figere.” ft must admit | had a very pleasant reaction to what be said. I felt good about it. Afterwards, I told my girl friend about it and she said, quite vebemently, “Another sexisa!” [I was so surprised satility of Taste the man Toshiba You'll lik MICRO-WAVE DEMONSTRATION THIS SATURDAY AUGUST 22, 11 AM-3PM Talk to the Toshiba Micro-Wave Hostess while she demonstrates the ease and ver Toshiba micro-wave cooking foods prepared with the cooking You'll love our SPECIAL PRICE ON ALL FEATURED TOSHIBA MICRO WAVE S getting to know a bunch of new ? STEWART: I can un- . derstand you feeling scared sure, it will be hard at times, but it will also be exciting and a real challenge. I have a feeling you'll find—-out ence again that everything will “work out gradually and naturally” . Fve never lived in the place you mention and so I can’t tell you “what the kids are like” there. I think, however, that in many Ways they will be quite like your friends here. (They will be different in many ways too, because I had thought that what he said was natural and trathful and a compliment. Since then, I have been wondering a bit whether my girl friend was right about him. Should I have been offended rather than pleased? STEWART: You don't need a “SHOULD” in relation to fecling pleased or feeling offended. You felt happy unal your friend dropped her mini-bomb ona you. YOU felt fine and were free of any negative feelings for the guy. (He sounds to me, natural and impulsive and able to share his compliments or your clothes or How to be popular anywhere of course).. I’ve been trying to think of what kids like in each other in most places of the world. [ll give you my ideas about that and perhaps you will toss them around in your mind. See if you agree with me in some of these hunches. Anywhere _in the world. I think kids like their friends to be friendly without being gushy; they like them to be outgoing but not pushy; they like them to have a sense of humour without being smart alecs; they like them sexy without being over- powering; athletic but not macho; with good heads, but ask hayden stewart Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-624. for appointments for individual. family or group counselling. His office in the International Plaza Hotel (Open Tuesdays only) is for the convenience of North Shore residents easily). There is SHOULD for your friend either. She blurted out to you how she reacted and that is the way she is. Give her that right. Give the guy his right too. And keep on with your right to feel as you feel without anxiety over how someone else thinks you SHOULD feel. Sometimes you will not like what you hear, and that’s O.K. But if you continue with your attitude, youll be able to say, time and time again, “I like it! I like it!!!" 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