‘ . . ° peas e. rateweety wee SetERLiLinc.c 34 - Sunday, April 7, 1985 - North Shore News ielieciador AMSTERDAM miss manners $7500 AMSTERDAM — LONDON RIN. 10 DAYS (ALL INCLUSIVE) BUS TOUR FROM AMSTERDAM TO GERMANY & AUSTRIA $250.00 DELUXE TOUR COACH, HOTEL WITH BATH GENTLE READER — If you want to take a moral position about what goes on by Judith Martin and J are both 38, have been married for 10 D=: MISS MANNERS — My husband ’ years, and have no children. Three years ago, my father-in-law died. I liked him, and to this day, I still feel the loss. I did not expect Eva, my mother-in-law, to become involved in a sexual-relation- ship, because she is religious and deprecated her friends who engaged in this. However, approximately a month before this past Thanksgiving, she became involved ir: 3 sexual relation- ship with Jim, based on “enjoying each other's company.” I met Jim at Thanksgiv- Ing. The three of us were in- vited to the house cf my fa- ther-in-law’s nephew, and -Eva tock Jim along. For Christmas, Eva wanted (to stay af our house, and to bring Jim. Most Christmas holidays in the pest were spent with my in- laws. To be truthful, # tke Jim a fot, but 5 fet intruded upon and uncomfortable by having an outsider who 1 had just met once sleeping in the bed that my in-laws had slept in for so many holi- days. Knowing this, my husband asked his mether tc come alone, bul she refused. So, we went to Eva’s and the four of us had a wonderful dime. Now Eva is asking to visit again. This time, 1 asked her to come alone, but she fuses to visit without her lover. 1 still feel uncomfortable about having Jim sleep here. i also feet like 1 would be betraying my father-in-iaw by having them sleep here. On the other hand, my husband has had no problem accepting this relationship, but he plans on having them sleep in separate rooms if they insist. I think I would be more comfortable if 1 were intriced to Jim over « period of a year, so that I could ease into accepting him and having them steep at my house. in your household — as you are cntitled to do — please keep it clean. it is one thing to refuse to put unmarried people in the same guest room, and quite another to picture what they might do there and how the lady’s deceased husband might feel if he were wat- ching. Your speculation along these lines is most unseemly. Besides, this is a bogus issuc. If Eva and Jim were married, you could not ref- use to include him at family gatherings, nor to house them together, As it is, you can insist upon putting up unmarried guests in separate quarters, in respect for your own moral stance — but not if you muddy the matter by declaring that you could get used to immorality in a year’s time. EXCURSIONS AND ALL MEALS CALL NOW 277-1872 pays, 921-9820 eves. introducing our Special... Fitness Menu Light, Nutritious, High Protein, Low Fat, Lo Salt LUNCH ONLY Spinach and Shrimp Salad... 4.50 Seafood Quiche... crab and shrimp... B.C. Salmon Filet... pan fried with lemon butter... Crab Meit... served on'an english muffin and covered lightly | with cheese... 5.95 6.50 Make every day a Sun (Ny eee? ~day with our 5 wo. spring special "You. can trust us to give you the best possible tan. " international Plaza Hotel 104-1969 Marine Dr. N. Van. BENE MET ob Eg LS Late ne ia Meg MRS POT Xie BIN MILNE SBS ode oN Rte SES an CE LAU: NE MS ae ries AAO EbinEs ge MOS RORY iad tata: ae ei, ee “HOME FURNISHINGS : Warehouse's 987-4976 setae Mf ioe Balards lary Dog ne 55° Or. Food 14 02. Miss Mew Cat Food = game : 6 az Reg.. tows fe 99° ; : Rawhide Bone $939 Kitty’ $ Own Cat litter. age Ken-L Ration 5 Kibble or Meal 20 kg Offer expires April. 14th - “(Sg 984-7855 . PERM SALE April 1 - April 13 Hair Today Fine hair styling for the Our finest quality. permanent whole family. : wave onsale now! Includes 40 00 a . Lhe a> GPs Gak) : - cut, style and condition. ; : telat citer A eee i .. (Long hair extra.) | we 8 Park Royal 922-9308 3071 Woodbine, Edgemont Village : 2