Wednesday, September 16, 1992 - North Shore News farriage on hold until fiancee’s ring fits. ing constantly to report on his - DEAR MISS MANNERS — My fiance gave me his grandmother’s ring as an engagement ring. it needed to be repaired and to be sized for my finger, so my fiance ar- ranged this and paid for it. It turns out I was incorrectly fitted and the ring was incorrectly sized. in afraid that I will lose it because i¢ is ill-fitting, so I want_ to have it re-sized. iy fiance asserts thai it is my responsibility, financially end otherwise, to see to it that the ring is sized correctly. I protest that it is stili his responsibility. The mar- gage is on hold until we iron this ~~ thing out. GENTLE READER — Actual- ly, it is the responsibility of the jeweler who sized the ring incor- rectly before to do it right. But frankly, if Miss Manners were you, she wouldn't take the mar- ‘riage off hold. DEAR MISS MANNERS — My ‘sister, who-is 42, with two children, recently married a SO- year-old man. with college-age children. They seem very happy. . ' On several occasions since her : weddiag — which. was ceaily ; nething more than a civil ceremo~ ‘ my ‘with no relatives present, or ‘even knowing — my sister has . Mentioned ¢o Mother that she should invite Joe's parents over ., for a dianer patty, to get the fam- - ities together. . My mother has Jeclined on each occasiow. She is in her late 60s _and: cares for my father, who is mentaily disabled. Every time Mother declines, she “*\ mentions that she feels guilty, but “my sister has centinued to request : her to give a party. Judith MISS MANNERS ‘T suggested that since Angie was marrying a second time (it was his third) and both are middle-aged, perhaps she could take the initia- tive and invite everyone to their hotne so we could meet the dif- ferent family members. Angie doesn’t iike this idea, as slie believes Mother should be the one to give the dinuer. GENTLE READER Miss Manners hates this question, because etiqueite is being made to seem the villain in this situation. Your sister has made up a rule that she is using to badger her mother, and your mother feels guilty about not going along with it. There is no rule that a married YMCA fee lecture delivers info on seniors’ medications NORTH SHORE Family YMCA: is inviting _ North _Shore © ‘seniors who: are 55. years of age. or ‘alder to a _ free_talk on’ medications on Monday, . Oct. 5. from 8:30 -to.9, am. following the 7 Pump — Primer Cardiac Class.” Pharmacist . discuss the. Bob. Mason will latest medications, their effects. and side effects. Seniors wilt be able to ask ques- tions pertaining to their own prescriptions. Organizers are asking people who are interested in the lecture to pre-regester before Thursday, Oct. 1. The YMCA is located at 1735 Inglewood Ave. in West Van- sour For more information call 6-55: ‘INTERACTIVE PSYCHOT HERAPY GROUP | ~ . For ACOA and Adults From Painful Family Backgrounds New Group to stari: mid te late October (Group size limited to 10 peopie) Cost: Facilitator ~ 150.90 monthly Tara Chotem: M.A, CADC For a screening appointment and/or more information call: 984-3504 Delbrook Business Centre 3741 Delbrook Ave., Nan. MONTESSORI ES PETITS PRESCHOOL OPEN HOUSE Saturday, Sepiember 19 iam - rd * "8uag9 Arts; 2pm Registration for September 1992 fAes Petits: 930-1102 440 Hendry Avonue Lower icnsdale couple whose parents have never met must first be entertained by the bride’s parents. Even if there were, a lady who aas good reason not to be in a position to throw dinner parties would be excused from doing se. However, there is a rule that people old enough to know better should refrain from making life difficult for their elderly parents. If your sister’s objective is to get the two families together, rather than to force her mother to go- along with an illegitimate rule of etiquette, Miss Manners suggests that she follow your advice and give her own party. DEAR MISS MANNERS — I felt offended and abused when I called the number given for reply- ing to an invitation to an engage- ment luncheon aud got a re- cording asking me to leave my an- swer, yes or 00. These people will receive gener- ous gifts, but there is not even an opportunity to inquire what would be appropriste or where their selection is registered. I calied at Jeast 10 times, and the infamous machine was always teking the calls, I have yet ie reply, refusing to talk fo a machine. GENTLE READER — So write a letter, politely accepting the in- vitation, as Miss Manners gathers you want to do when you don’t work yourself up into a froth over the answering machine, and in- quire what sort of thing the bride might like. Or. fax it in. Or seni it by E- mail. Miss Manners does not abso- lutely require the dwindling number of machine-haters among us to use telephone-answering machines, but she will not join the war against them. She has heard too many pathetic stories from harried people trying to regain control of their lives by stopping all that ringing. She even had a heart-warmirg letter from a former machine- hater who declared that she was turned around when she had 2 seriously ill grandson but was sav- ed the emotional distress of hav- condition while caring for his sibl- ings, because the children’s mother used the machine to put out bulletins to concerned friends. Having a machine do the func- tion of a social secretary, who col- lects responses to 2 party, is not, in Miss Manners’ opinion, a high crime. If you could bring yourself. to use it, you could leave a message asking the bride to call you — and then, if you wish, you could put a machine on your tele- phone to intercept her call. Church. celebrates 70th A STREET party, a parade and a vouth concert will be part of the 70th anniversary celebrations for West Coast Christian Fellowship this fall. It was. in 1922 that. -the church (then calied - ‘‘St. Margaret’s Reforined Episcopal Church”) bought a plot of land on the corner of East Georgia and Windermere Streets in East Vancouver, on the edge of the city, close to farms and forest. In the ’30s the congregation built a new church.-in the '60s and °’70s it was packed with hingies. Thousands of local children” have enjoyed its Sunday school over the years. In the °’80s, West Coast Christian Fellowship started a day school and is still known for its lively worship. : All this and 1 more is detailed | A in a newly published history, . called ‘“‘What:a Faithful God,” available from the church of-' * fice. : Celebrations start on Satur- ~ day, Sept. 19, with a. free street % party from4p.m. * : All are welcome, especially if: you live in the locatity or, have... ever altended.*’St.’ Margaret’s’? or ‘*West “Coast - Christian Fellowship.” 20. next day, Sunday, Sept. - “there - will: bea colorful - ae ade around the’ neighbor. hood at Il a.m. ; More events are planned ‘for the next. three “weekénds, in cluding - a youth concert. Friday, Oct. 9. ° For _ more inforinati 255-7301. a. “Sew Zasy”... experienced and novice sewers won't want te miss” our special feature September 18th in the North Shore News::. You can learn more about whats new in fabrics, fashion and’. : «. sewing technology. 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