No sex for us,

YOU LEARN a lot after
you have kids.
One of the things you learn — a

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Dear Editor:

Alas fam not wise and all-see-
ing like you,’ high priest of the
North Shore News.
“-T have done wrong; ! have
misread and even questioned the
wisdom of allowing Catherine
Atyeo her own column. .
'.[ do not possess your purity of

'!. mind and spirit-and thus did not

initially appreciate that every time
‘Atyeo puts ink to paper and
reveals her self-righteous, _ self-
serving, and self-centred | views,
“she helps undermine the very

Dear Editor: °
Every day 1 see aggression
“towards women, be it supposed
_humor,:a patronizing coniment. or
‘~a friendly body pat. I’m sick of it.
 E, saw. an advertisement in a
Vancouver paper for the Deep
Cove Bike Shop which infuriated
:me.
It reads “Don't fet ‘your sum-
‘mer be a bummer,’’; and-has a
picture” of an overweight woman
in'a bikini walking away.
-“J have many. feelings about this
particular’.ad.. Yet again I see

wa vemen being objectified and used.

: Waving does

\Dear Editor:
‘To the .young woman driving

“the red truck who made an illegal

. left hand turn onto Main St. from
“the Canadian Tire parking lot on
Aug. 23 at 3:05 p.m. -
--1 was the driver of the blue sta-
tion wagon that you cut off.
1 had to put my car into a side-
ways skid to avoid hitting you di-
rectly i in the driver’ s side door.

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A PAIR

little piece of information they
don’t pass along in pre-natal class
— is that you'll lose almost all
desire for, er, well, The Big S.

Oh, OK, let's just spell it out
baldly and boldly: you won't want
to have SEX.

Since women are still the gender
that does most of the childcare
(sorry, may be sexist, but in most
cases it’s “7.1¢), and consequently
are ofter: (1 my case, always)
severely sleep-deprived, this
apathy for The Act comes mostly
from the distaff side of a part-
nership.

And | mean apathy, in a big
way. In my own case, there are
some disturbing signs:

1. {f my current celebrity heart-
throb, French film star Gerard
Depardicu, came galloping on a
steed through a meadow some-
where in Champagne, ready to
transport me to some haystack for
a little hanky panky, I'd probably -

feminist. movement which she
represents. ;

Tam unworthy of your respect.

In her column on Aug. 27,
Atyco offers an example of her
keen insight into the male psyche
by stating that a large number of
male prison inmates would lie
around awake at night having
fantasies about being frisked by
women prison guards.

Correct me if 1 am wrong but is
this not the same form of sexual
stereotyping that the feminist

movement stands so ardently

There shouldn’t be a correlation,

. between her and buying from this
bike shop. I’m sure that a more
creative and suitable ad could be
put together.’

It imposes a social rule that fat
is disgusting and conveys it to be
unacceptable.

It is a warped ploy to scare
others into buying, or else...

From. what I understand, people

- with emotional problems have ad-
dictions to suppress their hurt and
anger. ;

_... There are, alcoholics, drug
abusers, obsessive exercisers and
compulsive eaters, to name a few.

not excuse violation of law

If | had been driving a larger
vehicle, avoiding you’ would not
have been possible, and you could
have been seriously injured or
killed.

Shrugging your shoulders,
smiling, and waving does not ex-

' cuse your violation of the law.

It is drivers like you doing
stupid and illegal things like that
that makes our insurance sky-

ines the

INSIGHTS
please ...

say: ‘Thanks, Gerry, but [’m
really tired. Can I take a rain-
check on that?”

2. Sex now has for me a remote,
unattainable Olympian quality. |
view it as an athictic event which
requires months of training.

When [think of some of the
other competitors, say Madonna, I
feel like dropping out and cating a
giant bow! of chocolate ice cream.
Or going on steroids.

3. There's my self-image problem.
I feel like a cow who’s produced
her quota and just wants to chew
her cud and watch the little crit-
{ers grow up,

Frisky no longer describes my
essential self, I'm definitely in my
bovine period.

All this would be fine if i, a
burned-out bovine broad, wasn’t
married to a man.

You see, men don’t fully un-
derstand what happens to a
woman after she has children,

against?

We all know the scene: the
overly aggressive male, veins
surging with testosterone, making
Neanderthal moves on the pro-
vocatively dressed woman who
pretends to spurn his advances but
is secretly sexually attracted to his
animal magnetism.

It plays like a bad and outdated
movie based on fantasy rather
than truth.

Now I! understand that the male
Stereotype adds fuel to the myopic
views and misguided politics of

Bike shop ad degrades fat women

This ad is humiliating to a per-
son who is overweight. It is sexist
and prejudiced.

_ I don’t find anything funny or
threatening about this ad.

I appreciate the North Shore
News for not printing this ad for
the local shop.

You can be sure that I won’t
buy anything from that shop or
any others who put down people to
attract business.

I trust that others will do the
same,

Sara Povey
North Vancouver

rocket every year.

I hope you take this letter to
heart. Since you cannot read the
tight-turn- only sign, maybe you
cannot read at all.

Maybe you just don’t care.

Next time you might not be so
lucky.

Mr. L. Jeider
North Vancouver

LONSDALE QUAY
NORTH YANCOUVER

988-6321

were

They dread it, but they don't
understand it.

They hope you'll waltz home
from the hospital with the
newborn and in two days have the
energy of Jane Fonda and the
mind of Xaviera Hollander.

Six months later, you're looking
at the bull in your life, you hair
hanging in your eyes and your
X-large T-shirt covered in drool,
and you want to say: “Geez,
you're interested in me? Don't
you have standards?"

tt’s clear thar ] can’t continue
watering the garden at 2 a.m.,
hoping my husband will be snor-
ing contentedly when | tiptoe into
the bedroom.

Neither can | keep suggesting
that we bake muffins together as a
bonding experience.

I’ve got to do something to
assist us through this trying period
in our marriage.

1 could buy him one of those

the feminist movement but the re-
ality is that men are just as un-
confortable with their mythical
tole as women are playing the
temptress and adulteress.

Believe me when | say that no

normal man would ever want to
suffer the terrible indignation and
humiliation of having to stand
handcuffed and naked in front of
a woman while she searches him.

This has nothing to do with
double standards, Ms. Atyeo; it
has everything to do with basic
human rights and dignity and self
respect.

I believe, as you do, tha?
women should not be body-sear-
ched by men.

Unlike you, I believe that men
can be just as easily humiliated
and embarrassed as women.

These body searches are not the
five-second jobs you would have
your readers believe. Every square

- while

arries

inflatable dolls that they advertise
in the back of wrestling maga-
zines.

Then again, he probably
wouldn't want to be found our as
a pervert with a plastic fetish,

1 could encourage him to start
training for a triathlon. The good
news is, he'd be as exhausted as
me — for a while. ;

The bad news is, once he got
fit, there wouldn't be room in the
bed for me and three plastic dolls.

P could search through library
files for news stories about hus-
bands who suffered fatal heart
attacks during you-know-what,
and put them in a perfumed
envelope on his pillow.

Oh, forget it. Probably none of
that would work, Better to buy a
new X-large T-shirt, a cheap bot-
tle of wine and hope Mil still be
awake after Jeopardy!

inch and orifice i is searched over a
period of time closer to five
minutes than to five seconds. ,

Yes, it’s revolting, isn't it? Nat
much of a sexual fantasy there. /’'

Atyeo seems to enjoy throwing
stereotypes around, so I thought I
would throw one your way,”

1 wonder how many,’ sexually
frustrated women are attracted to
the prison system and’ would love
to get their hands on a helplessly
handcuffed, sweating muscled
hunk. /

The Supreme ‘Court of Canada’

blew this one big time, but it
comes as no surprise; like the New
Femocrats ,of our province they
are like old laundry blowing in the
politically correct winds, hoping to
remain useful to someone for a
longer before they are
thrown out with the trash.

Craig Binion

North Burnaby

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