40 - Sunday, February 10, 1985 - North Shore News Respectable behavior for morning after woman meets & respectable man in a respec- table manner (a book in itself), and the two find toward the end of an evening that their roman- tic interests have been stirred and they succumb to these interests, what is the proper behavior that should follow, i.e., the next day or the next week? Dp EAR MISS MANNERS -— If a respectable I've recently found that an annoying habit of some male members of ‘society is to do nothing at all! Of course, such an encounter is not cause for a formal engage- ment, but it does merit some reaction. . . : I liken it to the dreadful _ | fudeness of a dinner guest - ’ who neither calls or. writes to - _fell the hostess her company. ‘: “was enjoyed.: ; : “GENTLE ‘READER — u.wouldn’t care to: lend «: - Miss Manners the “book in. _itself,’*.would you? There is ‘nothing ‘ like a nice story j ‘about passion run. amok to. ‘while ‘away a winter's © afternoon. . As a rule of living, however, it has its advantages. The trouble wit! ‘strangers is that one doesn’t know anything about them. :. ' : It. is not just .that one; : -.,-doesn’t know ‘if-: their: man-- ners include thank-you calls, - but one doesn’t ‘even. know. their definitions’ .of what should make them. graieful: -You -have charmingly’ described such encounters as’ - succumbing — presumably to’ raré-and uncontrollable pas- -: ‘sions.It.is perfectly possible, _' however; that- to: the: strange gentlemen, these are: routine iineidents;.“devoid “of that -tedious' requirement “of checking out emotions and “.manners'before intimacy: * EAR°MISS: MANNERS - '’} J-have recently ‘had the *:'f respectability dis-.. ~ way of informing Mr. B: that Friday .{s°taken;. without ‘yesorting.” to: the : overused “Dusy"’. (femalese for “not interested'’)? “What ‘can be done.to. prevent Mr.-A, Mr. B., and. Mr. C. from running: » into each other “coinciden- tally”? while making informal . visits: to. my residence,. and what can be dene to make. ‘each comfortable | when “it does huppem? = 950 “PREGNANT AND DISTRESSED: ?.... | My mother, who is a strong believer in the male competitive drive, thinks these situations are to my ad- vantage. But so far I feel in- ept at the jungle etiquette, having been on the other side before, and not feeling the least urge to compete. GENTLE READER — Competition is such a'strong term. So is jungle etiquette, for that matter. Let us just say-—- your mother and Miss Manners — that a gentleman is supposed * to have to make an important effort if he wishes to secure exclusive rights to a lady’s company. Otherwise, he is going to experience ‘a little discomfort in finding that she is not always available to be with him, and even in - discovering that she has other. gentlemen friends. This is not a disgrace, and should not be so treated. One way to prevent them from running into one another is to let it be known that 'you do not entertain’ unannounced visitors. ‘‘Do call if you’re thinking of coming over’ — I'd like it to be at atime I can receive you properly’. -is femalese for ‘1 don’t really plan to account to you for my . time.” : . You are right about .too much busyness meaning ‘'Go away,’’ but ‘Oh, I’m devastated that I’m-not free then — some other time, I hope,’’- means ‘‘Keep " DEAR MISS MANNERS _ == T would like your opinion 1 # irthright TEL: 987-7313" .- PREGNANCY TESTS “EMERGENCY HELP : . _ = COUNSELLING: - ' 291-9818. 584-7311. 687-7223 = _BURNABY © DELTA, ‘VANCOUVER ] “ALL SERVICES FREE AND CONFIDENTIAL. ' | SIZES 14-46 WE HAVE IT ALL! DESIGNER FASHIONS IN LARGE SIZES ONLY. 1983 W. 4th AVE., VANCOUVER 734-7311 |h the habit ‘B 260 w: on couples who have lived together openly — sometimes for. geveral years —- who decide to get married. 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