Not really sleazy

QUESTION: There are
some organizations on the
North Shore that claim to
offer a lot to single parents. |
checked out a couple of
them and am convinced they
exist mainly —-to —bring
together men and women
who do not have partners. |
considered joining, but it
seems to me that is a pretty
sleazy purpose for a club. |
quit before | started and
thought I'd just send you this
friendly warning for your
readers.

NORTH SHORE SINGER

Eleanor Collins and a bac
February 14 at North Shore News counsellor Hayden Stewart's final “ev:

CHASE OF
vee GENUIS I!

TASTE

STEWART: Im sure your
heart is in the right place.
bul any organization that
brings together “men and
women who do not have
partners” can't be all bad.

did you want? Were
you looking for a mixed
group in which the men in it
only spoke to the men and

the women only spoke to the
women?

If you quit (before you
started) for the reason you
give, you'd better quit the

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k-up group of musicians :

library and = your = church
choir and your Bingo Night
and your Night School
courses and perhaps a lot of
other activities. Think i
over. You'll still be in charge
of your Tife if you join.

Give it a go. You might
even meel a Man, or a
woman, who turn out to be
friendly and worth knowing.

1 think you do. not really

need to be so selective.

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stand going to those
meetings with the same old
thing said over and over
again. Do you think that
A.A. is for everyone who has

a drinking problem?
STEWART: | don't think
ANYTHING is for

everyone, whether he has a
drinking problem or not.
There now, youre home
free. You can stay away and
tell everyone that Hayden
Stewart said, “A.A. is not for
everyone”. But, if you take
that route, let me suggest
you consider another thing
or two I'd hike to say about
youand A.A.

QUESTION: I had a great
love which ended with my
lover's death two years ago. |
am starved for love now. |
need it. What can I do?
STEWART: My friend
Marianne Gardner says.
“Give what you want (to
receive and you will find you
HAVE what you thought you
were lacking”.

Don't wait for love to
come to you. Be loving.
Give love. There are others

C11-Wednesday, February 6, 1980 - North Shore News

While there is a possibility
that A.A. may not be for
you, keep in mind that a lot
of its members also thought
that for a long time and then
came to feel that it was
vilaly important to them.
Will you keep in mind too,
that although it may not be
for you, it is more likely to
be for you than anything else
is that has come along so far.

It has the most astounding
record of effectiveness! The
second best is miles behind.
It may not ever become your
favourite social group. bul
that is not what it is out to
do.

of Giving is the way to

like you who are waiting for
you to be loving. To make it
a bit easier for you — start
with some needy lonely

_ ask hayden stewart

Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242
ferappointments for individual. family or group counselling. His new
office in the International Plaza Hotel (Open Tuesdays only) is for the
convenience of North Shore residents.

Is A.A. only answer?

QUESTION: I need A.A.
but somehow [ just can't

Before you back off, take
a deep breath and plunge
into “The Programme”. The
Twelve Steps are awaiting
you. Jump in. Someday you
will start climbing the twelve
steps — or you wont. I have
a feeling you'll be better off
if you do. By the way, the
twelve steps are very ef-
fective for many an ad-
diction, not just an alcoho!
addiction. Change the
wording a bit and the twelve
steps will fit your addicuon
to making money or being a
womanizer, or your ad-
diction to security or pride
or religious fanaticism or
obesity, or even your ad-
diction to avoiding A.A.!

receive

person and be lovable with

_ that person. See if you can

GIVE something to
someone —~secretly.

Not for everyone

QUESTION: | heard a
speaker say the other day
that EVERYONE oaght to
be in counselling. Do you
think that? —

remodelling

STEWART: No. It's

hogwash. But everyone who

ought to. ought to.

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