a re - “er a ee Page 38, May 9, 1979 - North Shore News Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242 for appointments for individual, family or group counselling. | His new office in the Plaza International Hotel (open Tuesdays onty) Is for the. convenience of North Shore ‘ residents. Be ‘group of friends. I have only — “- ome problem as. far as my oo. ; oo “social life goes and-it really STEWART:: Well; first of “Freelance. Counsellor — Shapeup, hospitals 1 QUESTION: I: consider friends, It gets me down that %" bothers mé. all, it might not have dawned on you that most of the guys The problem is that Fam your age feel like that a lot. ._ very self-conscious. I cannot: You know, or'can guess how _ go to a party witno . - Worrying how Llookto other and walk in as a new guy _ people. Most of the time I to a: party. without’ hard-it is to change schools hardly knowing anyone else. come up to the conclusion = - =. " Well; what you're doing ‘is even harder.. All your life . - you’ve been used to being a . Its the same at school, baby or a little boy or a big even when I'm with my boy. And now, it seems like “don't Sit int, QUESTION: Although it is man.) ‘ course you'll handling it in other ways. . twelve hours, since it hap- pened to me, I am still —ahbsolutely furious about a told that the parking - lot _all of a sudden you are not even a big boy any more, but ‘are on the edge of being a you are not yet used to how -to handle it. As I say, most -of.the other guys are the “same. Some of them handle it by showing off as big shots, others. handle it by backing . off and being very quiet, others. handle. it by being loud ‘and rebellious and of see others But. they are all handling in one“ way or another, the ‘strange experience of maturing rapidly. By the way, 1 had_ been 7 “They could come out to that parking lot ‘on a.cold either. Co Se ' ” -worryin .. It's a whole new world and - you. . closed at 10. It was now only wet night or at 3 in the 9:42. There I was 20 minutes - morning and be stranded for early and blocked off by an | lack of change. When I left automatic gate and, worst of - there were ahout 20 other YOU want tse to. do? QUESTION: My son had his nose badly broken. in an - accident. (What happened was, he lost a fight.) The doc sent him to hospital to have it set and treated. He had a very painful-and difficult 4 or 5: hours and was prettylow.. / Just as he was ready to leave, one of the nurses said to him, “F don't know why you: were here, you didn’t need all this,. your nose would have mended ' all right.” What a thing to say to ANY patient. What should I do about it? STEWART: Depends what you want to accomplish. Nurses are carefully trained not to make such comments. Reshaps the most con- structive thing you could do- is let the person responsible for training in that hospital know that some of the training didn’t take and should be re-emphasized. No point in naming the nurse involved. You'd just make it rough on one nurse instead of helping to lift the level of nursing efficiency in general. About 95 times out of 100, nurses are great! feeling — crazy ruling they. have at the Vancouver General Hospital. They must have formed a . committee. to inconvenience, -:and then completely ignore anyone _who used their parking lot. I had just completed a long and difficult time with a little girl for whom I have a very. willing ‘and at Jong last had got her ‘Off to sleep. Because of the sort of work I do, I still had to see to some other children across town for whom I was late. La ; ; : Tired-and hurried I rushed to get my. car out of the hospital's main parking lot. I drove to one gate . where there was a barrier against my exiting and a sign ‘directing. me, to. the-- other. gate. There I found an automatic barrier and a sign telling me that I was to deposit 50 cents and the barrier would automatically rise allowing my car through. . responsibility | all, no attendants were in ™ . sight and I had no change at all - only.a five dollar bill. — I hurried back to the hospital. and found all the offices closed except IN- FORMATION. The gift shop was closed, and everything else was effectively useless for me. I asked nurses and aides and anybody that moved where I could. get change and they all.seemed. to act as though it was terribly strange of me to need change at 10 p.m. | Finally, after being directed to the cafeteria and finding it closed too, three women let me have dimes and nickles that would release the gate and let me get to my work, : I considered at one point crashing my car through the gate but was too chicken. What an absolutely assinine and uncaring way to treat people who are visiting the sick, or who, perhaps, may even have lost a loved one. 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Amount enclosed Membership ts $5 for each adu (No charve for chitdren under 19) ‘ ears still behind those ‘gates. Come on, VANCOUVER GENERAL HOSPITAL - you can do better than: that! And I sincerely hope you will, before ‘some people with more gumption than I have tear ‘those gates up by theroots. ©... . /.When. you feel you “don’t”: fit in”, remember that-nearly . "very: all your gang. feel:they don’t © So. cinstead. of. long as. ye. Yo ‘about:whether you, ~ finishing off -being a boy and are fitting in, take good note. : exploring” the adventure. of of guys who are not fitting ini. being:a man.:Hf you let it, it with YOU. They have.aneed >: will’ get ‘more .comfortable “dor.‘you and: the best -fun -, you'veever had, Keep loose! with them. Worrying how youlook to | gy others is handled. best by 4 looking a8 good as. you‘can « and being ‘content with; that,.. for now. 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