44 - Sunday, January 24, 1988 ~

North Shore News

| LIFESTYLES

BOSS'S WIFE SHOULD NOT GET INVOLVED

Keep business confined to employees

DEAR MISS MANNERS — While I was dining at a res-
taurant near my husband's business the other day, a woman
employee, aged 56, whom I had met at a recen( retirement
party for an office supervisor, asked if she could dine with
me, becasue she had something to discuss.

She said her boss had threatened
her and made false accusations,
and that she was worried about be-
ing fired. She asked if I would get
my husband, who is the company
president, to speak with his
employee about these threats.

I wonder ff it would be proper
for me to get involved. I feel sorry
for the woman, who has only four
years until ber retirement after 35
years with the company, but | am
afraid that if I do intercede, it
might make matters worse for her.
I know that as long as the
woman’s boss, who is 45, does his
job, my husband will not fire him
for rough verbal (treatment of
another employee, but this woman
does have to work with him. What
would you do if you were me?

GENTLE READER — Sad as this
situation is, asking a company of-

ficial's wife to intercede in his
business is highly improper, and
you cannot consent. If you were
president of a company, you
would not care to have an
employce appeal to your husband
to circumvent your business pro-
cedures.

Unfortunately, you did not reply
at the time that while you ap-
preciated her confidence, you were
powerless to do anything. Even if
you and your husband talk over all
his decisions -~ cven if you actual-
ly run the company, with him as a
front — this would be the correct
response,

If, in fact, you do share con-
fidences about work, you will of
course tell him what happened.
Miss Manners trusts you to soften
this by pleading that the lady
herself obviously did not unders-
tand the impropriety of a route

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that would have taken her 1) over
her boss's head and 2) behind that
person's back.

Your report back to the
employce would then be: ‘I passed
on your message, but you really

DEAR MISS MANNERS — Help!
J have been divorced for 12 years
and have a wonderful 13-year-old
son from that marriage.

His father is about to be married
foe the fifth time and has large

miss

manners

by Judith Martin

must understand that ! do not
work for the company; I don't ex-
pect to hear what, if anything, he
is going to do about this. But I do
wish you well."*

having a January

furniture sale,

And The Time is Now

weddings with each bride.

They have asked my son to be
en atiendant in the wedding, which
I feel is fine, but both my son and
I have been invited to the Couple

but then so
are a lot of
other stores

To Purchase Fine Quality
Furnishings From Our Gallery
During Our January Clearance

A
Thomasville’s finest in the grand court style.

Shower. They even included the
name of the store where they are
registered. As if that weren't
enough, we have cach received an
invitation to attend the wedding,

Miss Manners, is it praper to in-

vite a child to the shower and ex-
pect him to buy a gift aud bring a
guest to the wedding? How about
expecting me to buy them shower
and wedding gifts?
GENTLE READER — A former
spouse is not properly invited to
watch her once-bridegroom marry
someone else — it would be much
too entertaining for the other
guests — although children are
now included in such events, pro-
vided they want to participate,

It is in your power to act cor-
rectly even if they didn't. You need
only decline all invitations for
yourself and have your son accept
his to the wedding itself.

As for presents — if he is able to
make an appropriately small pres-
ent, the token gesture would be
nice. You need not.

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the: ‘good. Stuff.

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