2% - Sunday, January 8, 1989 - North Shore News LIFESTYLES Force a response DEAR MISS MANNERS — After the iast party I gave, I decided not to give any more parties for such an ungrateful lot of people. Besides, in a fit of pique, I struck off the names of all the people who couldn’t be bothered to tell me whether they would be attending. That didn’t leave enough people for muck more than a game of bridge. Should I ever again find myself in a position to send out invita- tions, I intend to state clearly at the bottom of the invitation: “If I have not received a reply from you by (whatever date I need a head count), I shall assume you will not be joining us."” ‘That puts the problem with the guest, where it belongs. If the guest chooses to treat the invita- tion zs an unwelcome intrusion in- to bis busy life, it is not the host’s problem. If the guest really would like to attend, but is prevented by some other obligetion, be can still reply with his regrets. In any case, it forces an suswer from people wko weuld otberwise refuse to commit themselves one way or the other. Dirty dance LEARN DIRTY Dancing at a one-night workshop cat the North . Shore Neighbourhood House. Participants will learn moves similar to those seen in the movie Dirty Dancing — dips, sways and some moder mambo. Instructed by Jill Bailey and Co., the workshop will be held Tuesday, Jan. 10, 7:30 to 9:30 p.m. Fee is $15 for couples. Interested participants are asked tc pre-register. For more informa- tion call 987-8138:or drop into the neighborhood house at 225 East 2ad St:, North Vancouver. Get fit quick IF YOU have difficulty fitting an exercise program into your sched- ule, the West Vancouver Recre- ation Centre may have the pro- gram for you. The Quick Fit 30-minute exercise . class can be squeezed in before you head to che office. The moderate- level class runs Tuesday and Thursday mornings from 7 to 7:30, beginning Jan. 10. Call 926-3266 for information. Learn about Kenya COME EXPLORE Kenya with Helen Pintiham on Tuesday, Jen. 10 at the North Shore Neighbour- hood House. The neighborhood house hosts travel films twice a month. On Tuesday, Jan. 24 a film called Around B.C. will be shown. For more information call the North Shore Neighbourhood House at 987-8138 or drop by at 225 E. 2nd St., North Vancouver. THE CHILDREN'S SHOE STORE SALE! Buster Brown & Wild Cat Runners fram $14.99 CAPILANO MALL 986-4450 Manners Judith Martin De Since I've sworn off giving par- ties, I have no way to test this idea. Perhaps you could pass it on te those who are still trying, and let me know whether it works. GENTLE READER — Miss Manners has the sad feeling that — your experience being not uncom- mon — it will be harder and harder to find people willing to entertain the ingrates. Unless guests learn to behave themselves, we shall, Miss Man- ners fears, continue to see the decline of private, just-for-fun social life, and its replacement by the quasi-ethical, self-secking sort of impersonal entertainment for which some business gets stuck with the bill. Your soluiion is only a stopgap measure. By including that disclaimer, you only confirm that the minimal couriesy of replying to an invitation is no longer expected. And what would you do if a friend who had not replied nevertheless showed up on the doorstep? Send him away? Miss Manners prefers the tactic, pathetic as it is, of explaining why one needs an answer, as if the guests were children who had never been exposed to basic manners. **Please let me know if you will be able to attend — I would love to see you, but I really must plan if I am to entertain you properly.” Tracy Burgess before. ‘LE NEW 1989 DECK SAVE $14.50 Pay only $7.50 to join Tracy Burgess atter. 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