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ternational Plaza Hotel ( pen Tuesda ays onl yh i ts for the
of North Shore residents.

instead of arranging. for
amore counselling. Jhave one
: question . -that ‘has- interested’
res ' deal. On the’

“in. HOSTILITY! YAtthe time, -
iV did. not believe ade Was a

“y argued with : you about it.
‘Now, the question: How. did | «

s EWART!. There's.

common. reasons. If ane’s
hostility; has .a very” early
start.in-one’s life, it:comes to

“be accepted. as the way
_ things. °

Vare..-It,. -is not
-‘Mecessarily thought -of “an
hostility, but simply, this:is

/» the way'l.am,. Such a person

would: not-say to himself, "ay
am very hostile," but would

thing “going. for

‘perhaps, sometimes, a bit of
advice? .

STEWART: I'm glad you
value. the chance. to accept
responsibility for yourself
and want that situation to
continue.: I also see’ why
you'd like to be able to talk

-things’out-more. IE think you

can “have it-both-ways”.

Your parents ‘have:a good
‘you: in
helping you learn early in life

y
or. group: ‘counselling. His

what.I am” and not bother
, trying ta.explain it, even to
Another, common

no. “pret ding
room for:a" full ‘answer; ‘but a
Ill comment ‘on two fairly

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“it's up to you' ”. But:
perhaps, in their. admirable
desire’ to* ‘help: you to grow
into ~an “understanding ' of
freedom and“independence,
they. may be tending to lay
on you a bit too much too
soon. One way they might
keep giving you the right ‘to
choices (which you also
want): without leaving you
with the all alone feeling that
often accompanies that

to discuss options,. or
alternatives that are.open to
you, still leaving the decision
to you... Perhaps: the ‘next
time ‘you want to’talk” ‘with
them about a decision, you
might prepare a list-of two or
three alternative choices and
ask them if they can think of
another one or two. Then,

the three of you: “could -just-

talk about each alternative.
Consider its advantages and
disadvantages and then,
withont arriving: ’ at”’some

joint. decision, # the discussion ° |

tight, is-for:the. thrée of:you |

*

could ‘end, and you, better
prepared because of the
ion. still
have the final responsibility
of arriving. at your choice.
You:are, very :fi rtunate in
being. encouraged * ‘to make
your Shoices. Let your

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lifestyle: ot Gnother culture: Tight in-your home. Do -
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student?: Please call Pat: Heaney at 987-3040" for

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