C10 - Sunday News, September 6, 1981

QUESTION: There is a
matter I have recently
become interested in
because of the facial ex-
pressions and comments of
my friends and acquain-
tances when I let them know
that I have no real interest in
my family. It is not a subject

I habitually bring up, but it

has happened to become a
part of my conversations
recently in a most natural
way. I am close to my wife
and our two kids, but as far
as my parents and brothers
and sister are concerned
there is no real interest or
concern.

There is no feud. We are
not at loggerheads. It is
simply that they quite
happily go their ways and I,
quite happily, go mine. My
mother and father, who have
heen divorced for some time
are in Mexico and New
Brunswick. My two brothers
are in Utah and Saskat-
chewan and my sister is in
beautiful down-town Bur-
maby. We rarely write. We
even more rarely ‘phone and
hardly ever see each other.
My Burnaby sister, (if she
still lives there) I have not
seen for a couple of years.
This arrangement is not a
problem to me, nor, as far as

A guide to pronounciation of names

QUESTION: This fellow
who wrote “A Conscious
Person’s Guide to Relation-
ships” and spells his name
KEYES. How does he
pronounce it? ['ve heard it
said two different ways. You
mentioned his book, can you
Dronounce his name?

STEWART: This fellow.

I know, does it bother any of
the others. I think they are
not in touch with each other
much either. I have just
grown up that way and I
suppose they did too.

I have never been con-
cemed or unhappy about it,
but, as I say, just recently, (1
am sure by coincidence)
people have looked at me
strangely or said things to me
that let me know they think
there is something very odd
about me. This has got under
my skin a little, at least
enough to make me wonder
whether I am, in fact, a little
bit out in left field.

Our family was like this
when we were all together.
Everyone seemed to go his
own way. We didn't fight
much, as I remember, but
we all learned the lessons of
our parents to be our own
selves and do our own

who also wrote “How to
Enjoy Your Life In Spite of
It All,” pronounces his name
Keyes, as in prize or cries or
surprise. He does NOT
pronounce it Keyes, as in
sneeze or please or strip-
tease.

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things. Do you think I am
part of a weird family or is
this ai fairly common
situation?

STEWART: If being slightly
unusual makes you weird,
then you are probably
thought of as “part of a weird
family”. I am not one,
however, to think that being
unusual makes one weird. I
know some families that are
very close to each other and
loyal to each other and don't
like each other a bit. That is
not terribly unusual — but
perhaps a bit weird. What
think ye? It seems to mea lot
has to do with what brought
this about in your family. It
seems reasonable to me that
first of all, for some reason.
you did not WANT to be
close to each other and then,
secondly, you _ trained
yourselves rather skilfully

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name GOETHE. Are you
longing for help in
pronouncing Goethe? The
way you do it is to write it
out as GERRTHER, then
when you SAY it, you leave
out all three of the rs. Lo
and behold, you come up
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not to be close. There seems
to be very little animosity
amongst you. Is that nght?

Seeing you are now in-
terested in your unusual way
of relating, or refraining
from relating, you may want
to do a little sleuthing to
discover whether you are
cheating yourse f. You may
find you like your family a
lot, or at least some of them,
and that you can find a new
dimension of love in your
relationship with them.
Curious? I'd love to see you
give ita go.

I can just picture you
trekking out to Burnaby, a
bit like explorer Stanley and
on finding your _ sister,
saying, ‘Sister Sue, If
presume.” I wonder where it
would go from there? It
might be fun.

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