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Realize hers is not your life to
live, so (obviously) don’t do
‘it! 3. Mind your own.
business, which, of course is
paying attention to the
enrichment of your OWN |
life. 4. Receive her'as she is
and enjoy your friendship |
more. completely. than you
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judging her and itching to.
change her. 5. And finally, as.
‘the politicians say, remem: -
ber that if she ever gets.
feeling like YOU do about |
her way of life, she ‘will
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