38 — Wednesday, June 25, 1991 - North Shore News YOU AND your spouse will spend one-third of your lives together on your mattress and foundation. Here are some bed-buying tips from the Better Sleep Council: *Shop for bedding when you're rested and unhurried, so you can concentrate on finding what feels right. * Take your partner. When buying for two, both of you should make the decision. ® Wear comfortable clothes and shoes you can remove easi- ly for lying down. “Lic down and stay there. LWA3 2: w/ , i-7 WE'RE INNCREDIBLE | You can: judge support and Tips on buying beds | A comfort by sitting on an edge or fying down for a few se- conds. Don’t be shy. Get on the bed with your partner, roll around, lie on your side — are your hips and shoulde:s com- fortabie? ¢ Get the whole story. Request literature, study the informa- tion on display, read the labell- ing and insist chat the salesman tell you about product features. «Shop for the best value, not the lowest price. You can always find ‘‘bargain bedding” at rock-bottom prices, but it's no bargain when it comes to getting a good night’s sleep. f In Victoria | Snuggle under a fluffy goosedown comforter in front of a crackling fire or sip champagne in your private jacuzzi ... ug 906 McClure Se. Xx Victoria, B.C., Canada, V8V 3E7 ERC Phone: (604) 3885363 Wess ae Catering ast 2n ni HAVING HEARD the _piteous cries of overburdened brides who are in the throes of producing those stressful extravaganzas they call The Happiest Day of My Life. Miss Manners has decided to With her best wishes, she hereby presents them with a checklist — yes, another checklist! Busy brides just love checklists! But the intent of this one is to cut down on their labor. Miss Manners’ checklist consists of Things Brides Need Not Trou- ble Their Pretty Heads About. Following it ought to lop off a great deal of misery in which brides seem to find themselves embroiled. 1, Do not worry about who is going to give you a shower. Tbe shower is a lighthearted, non- essential element of an engage- ment (as opposed to, say, the fiance, who is essential and whose heart shovid be fixed at this point). In any case, it is voluntary on the part of the bride’s friends. They either throw one or they don't, bin she can’t demand one. 2. Do not worry about whether you like your relatives. You have to invite them anyway. 3. Do not worry about how Many guests you can invite and still afford to serve your dream menu. The proper formula is to count up the relatives and friends first, and then figure out what you can afford to serve that number of people. 4. Do not worry about whether 985- Vz. people will give you wedding presents that you like. These are presents, after all, not fees paid for the priviieze of secing you get married. Judith Martin MISS MANNERS Only if they ask you what you want can you reluctantly admit to a preference for a certain style or category that must at least include modest things, or to being regis- tered at stores. §. Do not worry about finding other ways to recoup some of the meney from your guests. You can't do it. 6. Do not worry about whether the stamp on your invitations car- ries out the color scheme of your wedding. Nobody cares. 7. Do not worry, before you send out the invitations, about whether people you invite to your wedding will be able ta get there. That’s up to them to decide, once you have sent them the invitation. Later on, you can worry when they don’t answer. 8. Do not worry about whether your bridesmaids will match one another, or whether the number of bridesmaids equals the number of groomsmen. This is nor a fo SS t all checklists parade or a public matchmaking. The idea is to have your friends around you, regardless of whether the effect is symmetrical. 9. Do not worry about whether your mother will match the bridegroom’s mother. They are not a set, either, and can both be trusted to dress properly for the occasion, 10. Do not worry about whether every minute of the wedding day will be captured on every celec- tronic means available. That can ruin the occasion, and your friends will not long zllow you to make yourself tedious by showing them pictures and videos. 11. Do not worry about “lim- ousine’”’ privileges (there is no polite word for distinguishing pretentious auiomobiies from or- dinary ones), pew seating or danc- ing order. Aside from the general idea that it is nice for people who are feeble or who are wearing long delicate dresses to get rides, that the fami- ly sits up front, and that the brid- al couple opens the dancing, there are no persnickety rules doling ovt the honors. 12. Do not worry about whether you have completed all your place settings. The stores will still be open after the wedding. Anyways, a proper bride is too busy writing thank-you letters in the first few months of marriage to put everything away. 13. Do not worry about whether the bridegrocm is sufficiently ia- terested in the wedding. He may or may not be, but this is not in- dicative of whether he loves you and whether he is ambivalent about getting married, The earliest you would ever need to consult him about such matters again is a whole genera- tion from now, and Miss Manners assures you that your daughter will not be all that interested in whether he thinks the wedding cake should be orange or choco- late. ~ CLASSICICONTEMPORARY TABLECLOTHS } > COTTON REDOING 2 > EGYPTIAN COTTON TOWELS » CRYSTAUFLATWARE i COMPLIMENTARY BRIDAL MAKE-UP LESSON WITH BRIDAL REGISTRY -COVERS- 224-5116 in,