40 - Wednesday, February 20, 1991 - North Shore News

Q. ¥ AM engaged to a
wonderful man. Our sex life
couldn’t be better. He is
everything I could possibly
want.

Oniy one tiny doubt clouds my
perfect horizon. Recently he told
me about an experience he had
when he was 12 years old.

He and his best friend, another
boy, masturbated (to orgasm
together. They didn’t touch each
other.

He hasn't had any other
homosexual experiences, but | am
a little concerned. Should I worry
about this? Could it happen
again? .

We're both in our 20s. I want
to be sure that 10 or I5 years
from now he won't suddenly an-
nounce he’s gay.

A. No, you should not worry
about this at all! How wonderful
that you have such a good rela-
tionship he can tell you something
so intimate about himself. He has
done nothing to indicate a sexual
interest in men.

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Don’t concern yourself with an
incident from his adolescence. I’ve
heard of these things happening in
childhood from other men who
are not homosexual.

You are very lucky to have your
man’s trust. It is difficult for
many men to share such con-

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to both of you in your marriage!

Q. Lt read a letter in your col-
umn from a woman who wasn’t
interested in sex, even after her
husband had gone to the trouble,
and pain, of getting a surgical
implant to cure his impotence.

I was considering having the

same surgery. My urologist says I

am impotent and [ will never be
able to have a real erection any
other way.

Here is my concern. My wife
says she doesn’t want me to have
it done, but maybe she would
change her mind when the time
comes. She says she isn’t interest-
ed in sex now and won't be then.

We are both 68. I don't think.

sex should be over for us. Is there
anything [ can say to convince
her?

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Before you go to the trouble —
and, as you said, pain ~~ of hav-
ing surgery, talk to a therapist.
Your wife should go with you, but
go alone if she won’t.

Perhaps a therapist can help
you decide if an implant is really a
good idea or not.

If she isn’t going to have sex
with you, why do you want to
have this surgery performed?
Having an operation in the hope
she’ll change her mind about sex
doesn’t sound like a good idea to
me. Think how disappointed you
will be when she still refuses!

Q. As a young man in my 20s, I
am bombarded by sexual fan-
tasies, but I am sexually literate
enough to know that all men have
them. I also know they don’t rep-
resent hidden desires.

In other words, because I imag-
ine making love in threesomes
doesn’t mean [ wish 7 could, or
plan to, do that.

When [| told my fiancee about
these fantasies, especially the ones
about group sex, she admitted to
having similar ones of her own. J
was surprised. Isn't it different for
women?

I'm not sure she should have
such fantasies. Since she does,
should [ be concerned about what
she might actually do in the
future? This is making me ner-
vous,

A. A woman’s fantasies are no
more representative of her secret
wishes than a man’s are! Ap-
parently you are only sexually lit-
erate about men, not women.
Your fiancee is not the only
woman who has such fantasies.

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