C3 - Wednesday, June 8, 1983 - North Shore News ask hayden stewart Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242 for gppointmeants for individual, family or group counselling. SURVIVING DISASTER QUESTION: Im in a posi- tion where I have to know how to live through a whole rash of things that have gone wrong. The thing that weighs heaviest on me is my hus- band's loss of health. His il- Iness which is bad enough all on its own, seems to affect almost everything in our lives. I have to change my life-style (I can't work nearly as many hours) our finances are tottering, our teen-agers have to back off from some of their favorite pastimes and interests, the scenario for our upcoming years, and, indeed, our “future”, must be completely re-written. In other words,, here's one family that thought it had everything under con- trol and was proceeding healthily, and now finds itself scared instead of secure and in turmoil rather than contented. The facts of our situation are not very pretty and we are trying to think through how we can best handle them. I know you do not of- fer financial advice, but perhaps you could comment on the anderlying philosophical aspects of sud- denly having one's whole life changed, and not for the bet- ter. We have agreed to think through carefully whatever ‘you offer as hasic sugges- tions. STEWART: I'm pleased that you have not asked me for specifics. Others may be able to help you with arriv- ing at some sensible pro- cedures of a practical nature, but you have asked me for some underlying prin- ciples that could be useful to you. Here are some: - Practise brightening up your awareness of the unison you have with the universal life force. - Practise entrusting the fact that you (and everyone in your family) are in the pro- cess of evolving: you are becoming. - Be aware of your prosperi- ty; accept it gratefully and happily: use it lovingly and trustingly. - Become more and more willing to fet go everything Russian plant QUESTION: My Christmas cacd are in bloom!! Do you realize they are 7 months early? Perhaps this is a part of the world-wide develop- ment of weird weather pat- ABOVE ALL. GROUSE IS FAMILY FUN! The thrill of the skynide ts just the beginning Come up and a hone or a helicopter nde « terns that some people are happy to credit the Russians for. Could it be? STEWART: For sure. for sure. On the other hand. flowers family fun Stay for Juach, brunch or dinner or just drink in the view seven days a week Ride the Peak charrlift to the the hang gliders launch and soar to great heights Discover the nature trails while your kids discover top, watc Avila AT featuring unique Canadian crafts Nothing tops Grouse for where the good you are really done with and more and more willing to BE everything you are ready for. - Give yourself time to “listen” in solitariness and Silence, to the wisdom of your higher Self, and give at- tention to that wisdom of yours with respect and trust and courage. I could understand your feeling that those items may have very little to do with your husband’s health and your other accompanying difficulties. So let me suggest to you that you see them as PRINCIPLES. To be advan- tageous for you, principles need to be allowed to transform themselves into action. Not any of the above five suggestions for living in difficult circumstances will be worth a nickle to you if they are not lived out. Per- mit yourself to live as though such principles were authoritative guidelines for you. Better still. You choose some basic principles that you feel are foundational for hfe as you want it to be . Then. go along with them. ot are the most undependable people. Send in your story to That's Incredible and expect a response that says, in ef- fect, “We've already done il times meet THE STOREWIDE SAVINGS | OUR BIGGEST SALE EVER! . PSP COLONY’ S in preparation for our move to targer facilities, we're clearing our entire floor stock of brand name furniture. applances. lamps. pictures and home accessones truly incredible savings! JV MANY ITEMS AT OR BELOW OUR COST! GENUINE DISCOUNTS TO 70%! EARLY SHOPPING RECOMMENDED FOR BEST SELECTION COLONY HOME FURNISHINGS LTD. How’s Your Appetite For Dancing? Truffles Introduces something New on the Menu ine John Toulson Trio Wednesday to Saturday for your dancing pleasure. at the HYATT REGENCY VANCOUVER Call Alain tor Dinner & Dancing Reservations 087-0543 Local 30 > the adventure playground Picnic in alpine meadows or browse through gift shops the sky! tor information call 986 6262 oF 984-066)