separation: is never an easy
task to accomplish. Suf-

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Every. person. has choices.
You can choose to get up in

the newly-alone are
frequently quite vulnerable
to outside influences and
thus, are the unwitting
pawns in a game played by
well-meaning family
members and friends. __
~~“ Aw” €lderly” widow, for
example, may be persuaded
by her children, who believe
they know what’s best for
their mother, to sell her
house and move into a home
for seniors. On the other
hand, many elderly people
may not even have any
family to comfort them in
_ their time of need.

Rather than conquer their
- grief alone, however, the
widowed, _ divorced and
‘‘can> > receive~
g and support _
e L.I:F.E. (Living is
or stag sae Resource

different options, strengths
-and weaknesses. Counsellors

have also experienced grief

in status, are essentially
there to listen and to en-
courage the newly-alone’ to
start life again on their own.

STYLE AND. GRACE were the order of the e evening last Friday when the Pacific

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them to explore what they
want out of life,” said
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can choose not to. The
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alone decide what's best and
you are responsible and
aware of your decision. The
centre | really...is.. helping ..
people help 1 themselves.

By exploring different
avenues with that person, we
can help him or her. become
stronger and more self-
confident than before.”

In addition to one-on-one
counselling, the resource
centre provides initial
contact for those wanting to
become part of a self-help
group, where they discuss:a
smorgasbord of topics --
everything from new
: relationships , to-not being a
_good parent, guilt and ‘death.
The agency -also _arranges
social ‘activities: for group
_ amembers,..... provides..:in-:.
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The group for ‘widowers
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widows meet weekly with. a
$10 membership per year.
Fees are negotiable.

Last year United. Way
allocated $4,000 to the
resource centre, which this
year will provide services. to

-more-than--30- North-Shore’

residents, as well as to more
than 200 others in the Lower
Mainland who are suffering
the loss of a spouse. United
Way, which officially kicked
off its fund-raising campaign
September 21, aims to raise
$8.6 million for its 84
voluntary human care
agencies and their branches,

and for its partner’ the
Canadian Red Cross Society.

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include the’ North Shore
‘Association for the
Physically ~ ‘Handicapped,

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