20 - Sunday, December 31, 1989 - North Shore News

LIFESTYLES

Meet your
guests at
the door

DEAR MISS MANNERS —
I live in a secure building
which contains eight apart-
ments. When guests arrive,
they must first ring my
apartment from the front
door. I may then use the in-
tercom system to allow the
guests to announce
themselves, and I then elec-
tronically unlock the en-
trance from my apartment.

This seems to be somewhat in-
hospitable, as the guests must then
find their way up a flight of stairs
and through a series of doors.
Should I be greeting them at the
docr and saving the intercom for
package deliveries?

SE
miss
manners
Judith Martin

(EC

GENTLE READER — While
appreciating your hospitable inten-
tions, Miss Manners believes it su-
perfluous for you to greet your
guests in the lobby. (It is even con-
sidered a politeness, for those who
have the luxury of a household
employee to open the door, to

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his counselling centre, and has
authored a self-help book on the
subject, Family Ties That Bind.
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been cut off from his family and
his name was never mentioned.
The client’s father had been so
afraid of his son having similar
tendencies that he often ridiculed
him as a ‘“‘sissy’’ — putting the
wheels in motion for his son’s later
sexual identity crisis. : ‘ ; . ° _- _ te - . rt
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of individual people,”’ emphasizes a Lonsd: Pane 454 uckakuck Way
Richardson in conclusion. ‘‘Each Qt . Soko -He :
part affects the whole."’ Te 85 STZICrosec Mondays

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