32 ~ Sunday, February 9, 1992 — North Shore News Cir Geusr Use your head, not your heart if you want to be lucky in love ROMANCE IS in the eye of the beholder, and to some choosing a mate is a decision to be made by the mind, not the heart. Some of the people who are looking for 2 fantasy person, or are “hung up on face,” don’t always find that perfect mate, said Sylvia London of the Renaissance “Introductions. London, who helps people find mates, says. the most successful seekers are those that use a less emotional approach. “They should come here like they’re going to a realtor,’ she said. Every person has a mental list of the qualities necessary for the perfect house — or mate — that they could live with forever, but that list seems to be more useful when it is practical rather than 44 Get in touch with the things that really do matter - maybe It's more .important that he be Kind. ” written by your heart, said Lon- don. “*The ones who know what they want out of life,’* and know what they want in a mate are more suc- cessful at finding that lasting rela- .. tionship. Others, who choose mates solely based on that strong romantic at- traction seem to ‘‘go from one painful relationship another,” she said. As well, people looking for a |- relationship have to be ready for one, London said, explaining that attitude seems to be a very impor- tant factor-in the success. of the relationships that are spawned through her service. . A good example of this ap- proach, she said, was a set of twins who came looking for perfect spouses. The first came in with a wish list that included not “MV ABITIBI VALENTINE'S DANCE & CRUISE FRIDAY, FEB. 14TH, 1992 8PMTO MIDNIGHT VIVITIVEVVG ld $20.00 Freon $38.00 Soupte +G.S.T Includes LUSCIOUS DESSERTS GFVIVESCVIGY Ucensed Cash Bar No Miners Cdn. Steamship Certified 681.2915 For Reservations to. >see eee eee eee By Pamela Lang Features Reporter only an educated man but one with a PhD., and aftera man who fit the shopping list was found, they were soon in a happy rela. tionship and are now married. Then the second came in look- ing for the same thing. Exactly the same thing. © A quiet scientist, who had the right qualities, was in the files and agreed to a meeting, and London recalls saying, ‘‘He doesn’t know it yet, but he’s getting married.”* **They knew what they wanted,’’ she said of the twins, and the approach of looking for a. man who fit their wish list for stability and future ambitions meant more than looks or whether there was any chemistry. “It’s best to have the least emo- tion for an emotional issue.’’ . Part.of their success was to be open-minded about -the man’s PHOTOCOPIES Most CC. Welcome 987-4461_ MOTOR Offer expires Feb, 29/92 r * ‘TREAT YOUR VALENTINE GET AWAY 1 NIGHT .- WITH OUR STAY AND DINE SPECIAL Book one night at the Maples Motor Lodge and welll treat you to a dinner for 2 at the Surfside Seafood House* Reserve your getaway at # 1800 Capilano Road, North Vancouver YOU DESERVE IT!!! physical attributes, said London, who added that most people who have a cut and dried idea of their perfect mate’s looks are ‘‘into looking, not finding.”” It isimportant to“‘getin touch with the things that really do matter. — Maybe it’s more important that he be kind,” she said. People looking for exciting en- counters will have them, but they won’t find a lasting relationship, London said. ‘Excitement is an ilfusion.”’ “*There has to be deeper way of finding the right person, and part of that is letting go of the idea of that excitement,’’ she said. -London says she is not a hope- less romantic, but she does have great hopes for her clients’ success in love. “I want it to work for them,” she said. Some may fall in love 10 times, but not really love each other. In the lasting relationships, ‘‘they have to love each other at all levels,” with an unconditional love — loving someone when they‘re sick or depressed as well as in the good times. ae OY J.A. (JIM) RUTLEDGE, CMA _ FAX 929-4195 LODGE * Some restrictions apply aeaer™ ani Sanniiicel SZ MALL-WIDE ‘Unlentines Day As Sidewalk “SALE cs Foruey IO to oI6 wy