DIVORCED THREE TIMES

Be grateful for all your fears

QUESTION: No wonder that
woman who has been
divorced three times feels so
scared to have another
reladonship, even though
she wants love. ['ve gone
through the same thing, but
only twice, and I am scared
to death to get too close to a
man for fear I'll do a repeat.
I don't know what kind of
advice can be given to us two
or three time losers, but ['d
sure like to get some.

STEWART: O.K. - you've
asked for it and here it is.
First of all, be grateful for
your fear. If you see it for
what it can mean to you, it
could well turn out to be a
very valuable benefit to you.
It will help you to be wise

and careful (ugh!) The “ugh”
reminds you that being TOO
careful can be deadly. So be
wise and careful enough -
but not so careful that you
will miss out on op-
portunities that rate some
research and exploration.
Secondly: Give some
original thinking and self-
analysis to the business of

becoming sure of what you
really want to get and what
you really want to give.
Thirdly: If you feel like a
two-time loser and don't like
it, start being the change you
want to see happen, without
blaming anyone else for the
way it has been. Blaming
someone else can only slow
up your emergence as the

lover you really are.

Except for its gifts of
learning, the past is dead and
gone. The past has no valid
power to make you afraid in
the here and now, even
though you feel you did not
win many Brownie Points in
those days. It's a new start
you are preparing for, and I
believe you will find you

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The game's not over till it's done

QUESTION: People keep
telling me to keep trying in
the face of very long odds.
One good friend even said,
“Every cloud has a silver
lining.” Everything has been
going wrong for me. It has
piled up and piled up until I
see no light ahead at all. |
have huge debts, my job is in
jeopardy, our family has
been split up, a fellow I have
always banked on recently
moved away. My parents are
quite ill, and need care and
on and on. And, by the way,
1 am losing my hearing. Now
Lask you, what's the sense of
keeping on trying and
looking for silver linings
when the facts of the matter
have baile an insur-
mountable barricade bet-
ween me and any hope. |
feel like the Canncks. They
tried and tried but the facts
spell out the clear message -
The Cup goes to the
Islanders. They tried their
hearts out, but the realism of
the series was all in favour of
the Islanders. My load ts
simply far heavier for me
thar I can carry. Keep
trying? Bull!

STEWART: Yogi Berta or
Cascy Stengel, or some such
profound philosopher ts
reported to have said, “The

game isn't over ‘til it’s over.”

A few days ago I had a
chance to watch my grand-
son play a regular league
game of hardball. His team
was sponsored by the Lions
and they were to play the
Steelers. When I arrived at
the top of the third inning, it
was Steelers 12, Lions 1.
Those facts made me twig to
the possibility that the Lions
might possibly lose. Soon it
was 14 to | and only two
mnings to go. The Steelers
ended up with 19. The
Lions? They ended up with
20! Somehow the Lions
didn’t catch on to the “fact”
that they were scheduled to
lose. They hung in there and
in the last inning they pulled
it off.

Obviously, you feel like
the score is about 141
against you. But there are
some more innings. The
game isn’t over ‘til it’s over.
With you - itis not over. You
may have been trying very
hard to use some of your
resources. Undoubtedly you
have other resources that
will come in handy right now
when you need them. so
much. I'm pulling for you to
start again now, using ALL

your resources. Hang in
there! Go for the 20) you
need

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A cat in heaven

COEUR D'ALENE, Idaho
(UPD - Elwood the cat was
in seventh heaven until fire-
fighters broke down the door
and stopped his rampage in a
cage full of flapping,
screeching pet-store birds.
The pet-store cat slipped
into a display cage packed
with expensive birds at the
Tropical Paradise pet store
Wednesday and firefighters
had to break into the closed
store to save the cat's in-

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Elwood was “munching”
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the downtown store when
passers-by spotted him
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have everything you need to
make the new days good
ones.

The past has been a
learning expenence, but
these are the days for your
NEW learning and = your
NEW becoming. Con-
centrate on the here and
now and give’ yourself
permission to be your real
self.

Let me share with you
something ['ve been saying
to myself quite a bit. Perhaps
you'll want to explore its
alluring possibilities. Here it
1s: LET GO OF
EVERYTHING YOU ARE
DONE WITH AND BE
EVERYTHING YOU ARE
READY FOR.

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