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Q. I HAVE been seeing a married man for six weeks. At
first it was the best sex I ever had, but I quickly began to

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Woman wants to protect ex-lover’s wife

lose interest and was going to break up with him.

Then yesterday he told me that
his wife is two months pregnant. I
said “I never want to see you
again!’ He said he can’t live
without me and he’s sexually
obsessed with me.

He wants to continue the affair
and leave his wife for me as soon
as the baby is born. I wouldn’t
want him now even if he didn’t
have a wife and baby on the way.
But he says if I stop having sex
with him, he will tell his wife
everything now.

We had sex af.r he told me
this and it wasn’t ._ry good. How
do I get out of this sexual trap? I
feel responsib'e for protecting his
wife.

A. You are not responsible for
his wife or him! I seriously doubt
that he has any intentions of tell-
ing his wife about you or of leav-
ing her after the baby is born. He
is using those threats to make you
have sex with him.

Tell him the blackmail won’t
work anymore. Say, ‘‘I hate to see
your wife hurt, but you are the
one hurting her and not me. I
can’t stop you.”’

Be firm with him and stand
behind your decision not to have
sex with him anymore. You might

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also tell him that it isn’t that good
for you.

Q. My wife thinks I'm having
an affair with the widow next
door. She always has been jealous
of me though I’ve never cheated
on her in 50 years of marriage.

I don’t know what has led her
to her latest accusations. { am 80
years old and not well. The widow
in question is older and sicker
than I am.

Prince Philip featured
guest at wildlife dinner

HIS ROYAL Highness, Prince
Philip, will.be the featured guest
‘and speaker at a public dinner to
be held Sunday, March 8 at the
Hotel Vancouver.

The dinner is open to anyone
willing to make a $100 contribu-

. tion, towards supporting the con-

tinuing work of the World

‘Wildlife Fund (WWF) in B.C.

Prince Philip is here in this ca-
pacity as international president of

_ WWF, the world’s largest private

conservation organization
dedicated to preserving wildlife on
a global basis.

“This is a rare opportunity for
British Columbians. First of all it
is not often that royalty visits; se-
cond, have you ever heard cf
another occasion when anyone,
who is a royal fan and is willing

. to spend $100 on a good cause,

can have dinner with His Royal
Highness?’ said Ellen Brown,
chair of the fundraising dinner.

World renowned Canadian
wildlife artist Robert Bateman will
also be attending the royal dinner.
A significant display of six
Bateman prints, whose ‘proceeds
have been donated to the WWF,
and two sets of prints, hand-
colored especially for this exhibit,
will be available for viewing.

In addition to a gourmet meal
being served, guests will be able to

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Dinner tickets are available at
$100 per person on a_ limited
first-come, first-served basis at
the Wild Birds Nature Shop at
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calling 1-800-26-PANDA.

The Royal Birdathon, in which
Prince Philip (an accomplished
bird-watcher) will visit a local
wildlife sanctuary and count as
many different species of birds
possible in three hours, will be
held the morning of the royal
dinner.

There is an opportunity for the
public to get involved in the bird-
athon by making pledges for
each bird species counted.

The Prince will announce his
bird count at the dinner that even-
ing.

Pledge forms are available at all
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if I do the smallest favor for
this woman, my wife thinks we
are having sex. She has even told
our children and grandchildren
this. They think she is senile and
disgusting.

Could her suspicions be growing
out of her own guilt? When we
were younger she was the one who
played around. I never bring this
up and [I have forgiven her. But
do you think I should remind her
now who wore the cheater’s pants
in this family?

A. It is possible that guilt about
her past behavior is making your
wife suspicious of you and the
widow next door. But I don’t
think it would be helpful to re-
mind her of those mistakes now.

Tell her ‘‘Honey I am _ not
cheating on you. I am flattered
you think 1 am still capable of it.
Your jealousy put a smile on my
face.”

If she doesn’t believe you and
laugh about it, talk to your family
doctor concerning the situation.
Perhaps she is suffering from se-
nility and needs medication.

Don’t let her attitude stop you
from being kind to a sick and
lonely person. Good luck and let
me know what happens.

Q. My husband and | are get-
ting divorced after 15 years of
marriage. It is a friendly divorce
— so friendly, in fact, that we're
still having sex.

The sex is and bas always been
good between us. He says we
don’t have to worry about getting
diseases from each other. It’s OK
with me because I am not ready to
date yet, but I do have sexual
needs.

My friends think we are crazy.
They say we shouldn’t be getting a
divorce if we are still having sex. I
tell them sex was the only thing

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that worked well in our relation-
ship.

What do you think? Is there
something wrong with having sex
with your ex?

A. I think it is none of your
friends’ business what you do!
The decision to divorce is a very
private one. So is the decision to
have sex. In this case, I would on-
ly ask you to consider two things.

First, you can catch diseases
from each other unless you are in
a@ monogamous relationship. Since
you are getting divorced, it is rea-
sonable to assume one or both of
you will begin seeing other people.
You must agree to tell each other
when that happens — and use
condoms!

Also, don’t let this relationship
become a sexual crutch. Don’t use
it to avoid getting involved with
someone who might meet more
than your sexual needs!

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